What does he say when you tell him to stop speaking to you that way?

What hurtful things are you saying? And what tone do you use?

Anonymous wrote:Read Patricia Evans “the verbally abusiverelationship”

I am in your same situation. I read this book and it is really helping me a lot. (DH was upset when he saw the title, though, and mentions it every day.)

You might also want to get therapy for yourself, to figure out if you want to get out of the relationship or not. My DH is in therapy for his anger, and I am hopeful that he can change. But I am formulating a plan for if he does not. We have kids, so this is complicated...

Read Patricia Evans “the verbally abusiverelationship”

Tell him and don't be a victim.

Kids? If no, get out.

My husband yells at me and loses his temper when I say something he is irritated or hurt by.

I realize feeling hurt but the way to tell me that isn't to yell and scream and scare me. It is to calmly tell me you are hurt.

I am so sick of his yelling I don't even care if I said something to hurt him. I feel so abused and unloved.