Anonymous wrote:We are best friends. We talk daily and go out to to dinner with the kids. We divorced because he cheated on me. And no we don't have sex.

Good for you - are either of you in a relationship? How would that work? Does he ever try to reconcile?

My ex and I used a mediator to make things very simple. We split everything 50/50 and agreed on a co-parenting solution. Everything was good until I met someone and she decided she didn’t like her and tries to makes things hard for us. So, not super amicable but we are platonically cordial

We are best friends. We talk daily and go out to to dinner with the kids. We divorced because he cheated on me. And no we don't have sex.

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Was like that initially but after 3 years being no closer to a final settlement I wish to god I had used a rottweiler lawyer.

You don’t have to stick with your current lawyer.... you can switch to the Rottweiler

Anonymous wrote:All divorces are horrible for the kids

They don’t have to be.

One of my dearest friends s an example of this. They continued to have a great coparenting relationship, and the ENTIRE family used to spend Christmas Eve together, long after both had remarried and had “other” families (she had stepchildren/ he had children with his new wife). She used to babysit ex’s new children, as they were their son’s half siblings and it was important to them that things stay as normal and stress free about family relationships as possible. She stayed in touch with the ExILs, etc. as well, in order to help facilitate their relationship with son.

I think it takes a big person to see that divorce is about the adults, and to work around that. I always had a lot of respect for how they handled it all.

Mine was amiable because she put on about 30 pounds after the divorce and I no longer found her remotely attractive. Oddly, that made it easier to be done with her.

We didn’t even involve attorneys. After her multiple affairs it was clear to both of us that the relationship was dead. Honestly, I think we both knew that we had to be away from each other to be happy. We didn’t have kids though so that made it easier.

DH and his ex wife are amicable. Like the PP they were married for a long time and kids were older. We had a tricky couple of years and there is never enough money to go around but it’s pretty good. I just texted her to make a plan for a family dinner for one the (her) kids birthday next week

Mine was amicable after 18 years of marriage. We didn’t use a lawyer or mediator, split the assets in half and called it a day. The kids are older teenagers so they’re self sufficient which made things much easier. We did very little in actual custody discussions because the kids are old enough to have a voice. We get along okay but I definitely wouldn’t call him a friend.

I don't know what it was really like for my parents, but they still seem to be pretty good friends. We've taken family vacations with my mom, stepdad, dad, and stepmom.

The trick seems to be that all of them genuinely wanted it to work that way, and all are really nice people. If any one single person is a jerk or had hard feelings they can't let go, it won't work.

Was like that initially but after 3 years being no closer to a final settlement I wish to god I had used a rottweiler lawyer.

All divorces are horrible for the kids

Mine is not pretty

My ex just left. Picked DS up for cub scouts. DD decided she wanted to tag along. I ended up with 2 free hours. He brought them home fed.

We ended up having a drink and talking on the couch for an hour. It was nice to have a friend over this evening.

Mine was not great as it was happening and I still feel cheated on the property settlement, but we are now three years out and we are amicable and coparebt really well.

Anyone have one to share? I have to believe not all divorces have to be horrible and traumatic.