Anonymous wrote:OP, you might see me and project those thoughts. I'm attractive, 40, a successful physician, married to a wealthy man and seemingly look like the person you think wakes up at 4 a.m. to run.

Listen, sister. I don't.

I have three kids. I have a father who moved in after my mother died of heart disease. I have a career that is a combination of exhilaration and heartbreak (I am an infertility doctor). I am pulled in tons of directions. My marriage, while good, is hard work because my husband spends so much time in New York for work. I have a nanny and housekeeper. I practice self-care, so I do make an effort to leave the house pulled together. I exercise because my mother died of heart disease at a young age and I have a predisposition for it. I am living my life.

But I'm a good friend. I'm good to my husband. I'm the best mom I can be. I try to be there for patients. I try to take care of myself. I don't think about what other people are doing with their lives. I don't judge them. I know most people are trying their best and if they are struggling I wish them all the best that God can deliver them.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it's interesting that not only do so many women feel pressure to look, act, and be a certain way but they also have to make it appear effortless.

The effortless part is the more interesting one to me.

Why do so many insta influencers want you to think they can eat whatever they want and still remain a size 0-2? We all know that's not realistic and they're not eating all the junk they show.

Op here.

That is so true! My sister is one of these women. She is the epitome of hyper type A super organized and super perfect. She wakes up at 6 am and it takes her an hour to do her full hair and makeup every morning. She uses 10 different type of skin care products.She even massages olive oil on her eye lashes so they remain thick and makes time to work out after a very stressful job. But when you talk to her she’s always so self deprecating with comments like “ oh I am so low maintenance! I don’t even know how to do my hair” “ugh I feel so boasted”

Hahahahaha . I just look at her quietly chuckling to myself.

Anonymous wrote:I am not one of the above mentioned “perfect women” but I know quite a few and one of them is my sister. So I know what their lives are like on the inside.

Their secrets are as follows:

-natural beauty. All three of these women are naturally genetically blessed. Good bone structure, naturally slim with thick shiny hair and good teeth. They could wear a plain t shirt and still look beautiful.
-deep desire to look a certain way. These women don’t project this image by accident. Their entire style and look and lifstyle is carefully curated and meticulously put together. They want you to think they’re perfect. None of them will ever ever leave the house without makeup and perfectly coordinated outfits. They won’t put their hair in a ponytail but the most flattering ponytail etc.
- insecurity. This desire to look perfect all the time comes from a deep desire to prove to themselves that they are worthy.
- discipline. They are insanely disciplined. They wake up at 4 am to go on 5 mike runs, eat very very little, partake in extensive exercise multiple times a week.
- money. They all have $$ to enhance their already natural beauty

Anonymous wrote:Telling to me is that your idea of perfection focuses on appearance and nothing else.

Anonymous wrote:Telling to me is that your idea of perfection focuses on appearance and nothing else.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's interesting that not only do so many women feel pressure to look, act, and be a certain way but they also have to make it appear effortless.

The effortless part is the more interesting one to me.

Why do so many insta influencers want you to think they can eat whatever they want and still remain a size 0-2? We all know that's not realistic and they're not eating all the junk they show.

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the info.

Anonymous wrote:I think it's interesting that not only do so many women feel pressure to look, act, and be a certain way but they also have to make it appear effortless.

The effortless part is the more interesting one to me.

Why do so many insta influencers want you to think they can eat whatever they want and still remain a size 0-2? We all know that's not realistic and they're not eating all the junk they show.