Hi there! I love that you are going in this direction...even healthy marriages need coaching and guidance!! Do either of your jobs offer counseling through your work? Here is a great resource until you find a good counselor. I have been married for 20 years, and like everyone we have been through some ups and downs. One beneficial thing we did was do our Love Languages as it helped me understand my SO better. You can find it in this list... https://list.ly/list/1CDy-is-your-marriage-built-on-a-solid-foundation

Prior to the M. Obama reveal, my wife and I discussed seeking out a marriage counselor as we are in the midst of a tough stretch. After the reveal and further consideration, it's a path I want to take. Problem is that I have no idea where to start. (Quick backstory: we're a committed couple with around 10 years of marriage and about 20 years of being together; first marriage for both; no physical infidelity; two upper 30 yo professionals with demanding careers and two kids).

Is it simply go through Yelp/Washingtonian-style ratings and finding one that feels right?

What are the questions we should be asking to align what we think we need/want with what the counselor offers?

Is there a basis to see a psychologist over a therapist and vice-versa?

Thanks in advance