Anonymous wrote:Ditto. Just had a loss at 24 weeks. She looked like a baby...just small. But perfect. Much harder than my previous losses at 8 and 14 weeks. I've been pregnant a lot this year but have nothing to show for it. Leaving labor and delivery empty handed is haunting.

OP here. So sorry for your loss, PP.

Anonymous wrote:Ditto. Just had a loss at 24 weeks. She looked like a baby...just small. But perfect. Much harder than my previous losses at 8 and 14 weeks. I've been pregnant a lot this year but have nothing to show for it. Leaving labor and delivery empty handed is haunting.

I am so sorry.

Ditto. Just had a loss at 24 weeks. She looked like a baby...just small. But perfect. Much harder than my previous losses at 8 and 14 weeks. I've been pregnant a lot this year but have nothing to show for it. Leaving labor and delivery empty handed is haunting.

Just wanted to send a hug and say I’ve been there. I went through a year of infertility and hated it pretty much everyday. Every day I said to myself “you’re one day closer to your baby than you were yesterday”. Other people’s birth and pregnancy announcements are the absolute worst, even when we want to be happy for them. Take care of yourself however you need to. I treated myself to a mani pedi every other week. And it’s totally fine to mute people on social media who post about their pregnancy or their baby, it’s a lot easier if it’s not in your face and there’s no shame in doing that.

OP here - thanks all. Last night was tough too, but today is a new day, even if I'm on my period now. :/ Thanks for the kind words, I really appreciate it. Love to all of you who are having a particularly hard moment, or even just a regular moment because they're all hard when you're in the middle of this battle.

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Anonymous wrote:It's not a pizza - if someone has one more slice there is one less left for you. There is no zero sum game in baby making, focus on yourself, don't mind other people, especially since you never know who else has used fertility treatments to get to that pregnancy announcement...

I think it's pretty clear that OP is logical enough to know this. But we can't control our emotions, and it's completely fair for her to have the feelings that she is having.

Agree - its ok, OP, its so hard not to feel like the world is unfair sometimes. You just keep putting one foot in front of the other.... hugs.

Anonymous wrote:It's not a pizza - if someone has one more slice there is one less left for you. There is no zero sum game in baby making, focus on yourself, don't mind other people, especially since you never know who else has used fertility treatments to get to that pregnancy announcement...

I think it's pretty clear that OP is logical enough to know this. But we can't control our emotions, and it's completely fair for her to have the feelings that she is having.

Today was hard for me, too, OP. Finally came to the conclusion with my doctor that I should move on to donor eggs. I’m about ready to accept it, but the emotional and financial toll....well, it’s just hard.

Hope you’re able to find some shelter from the storm tonight. Hang in there.

I feel this way too. Been TTC for 4 years. I feel bitter and depressed every single day. Surrounded by pregnancy announcements everywhere. It's hard.

I'm so sorry OP. I've been there. Let yourself feel jealous. Acknowledge those feelings and don't punish yourself for them. I know it's not fun to not be able to be immediately happy for your friends, but it's very normal. Feel your feelings, and then feel happy for them.

Sending hugs OP. i know people here roll their eyes at that but hey it's better than sending spiders. I hope you feel better and be kind to yourself.

yes, OP. i feel like that all the time. ALL THE TIME.

It's not a pizza - if someone has one more slice there is one less left for you. There is no zero sum game in baby making, focus on yourself, don't mind other people, especially since you never know who else has used fertility treatments to get to that pregnancy announcement...

Yes!! Waiting for my period so I can start a mock cycle.

This is just one of those days where the universe seems so unfair. About to start yet another period, stressed about affording fertility treatments, and it's been one pregnancy or baby announcement after another. I try so hard to not feel jealous or bitter about other people's good luck, but sometimes it's just hard not to let my emotions get the best of me. Anyone else?