You could talk to the coach politely about it, but basically your only other option is to find another team for your son.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, maybe you or your DH can volunteer to coach and then play your child as much as you want.

My dh coached 6 seasons of rec soccer. He gave kids equal playing time. I realize that classic and travel is a different ballgame, but it surprised me. He doesn’t even give the best player on the team that much field time.

Great, your DH should be all set to coach an MSI team then.

I get it, I really do. Our family has been there. The people who don’t coach or don’t have a spouse that coaches don’t understand how hard it is, how much time and effort coaches put into the team. I’m not pissed that my kid isn’t getting more playing time, I am truly asking if this is common in the higher levels, thats all, and If people get upset about it. I said the coach is good. I said his kid is good. I said my kid isn’t great. I’m still surprised at just how much he favors his own kid, that’s all. Relax a little, ok?

I’m a Rec coach around that age. I coach to favor my kid. I didn’t like how he was being coached before so I stepped up. I now set up trainings to address my son’s development needs as I see them and everyone else is along for the ride. The truth is that they’ve all benefited tremendously because I care more than most rec coaches and the kids notice and benefit from it. We now have a much better and happier team. And while I try to keep playing time even on the team, I’m always most aware of where and how much my son is playing and much does revolve around what I’m trying to accomplish for him.

That’s being a dad and a coach. And if you do it for everyone’s benefit, it works out great. I love the other kids on the team. I want to see them succeed and I’ve invested years helping them grow and succeed. But I wouldn’t be doing it if my son wasn’t out there too.

It’s your right and duty as a coach to look out for your kid. But I’d hope parent coaches would be fair and equitable and work for all the kids- because that’s the job you volunteer for.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, maybe you or your DH can volunteer to coach and then play your child as much as you want.

My dh coached 6 seasons of rec soccer. He gave kids equal playing time. I realize that classic and travel is a different ballgame, but it surprised me. He doesn’t even give the best player on the team that much field time.

Great, your DH should be all set to coach an MSI team then.

I get it, I really do. Our family has been there. The people who don’t coach or don’t have a spouse that coaches don’t understand how hard it is, how much time and effort coaches put into the team. I’m not pissed that my kid isn’t getting more playing time, I am truly asking if this is common in the higher levels, thats all, and If people get upset about it. I said the coach is good. I said his kid is good. I said my kid isn’t great. I’m still surprised at just how much he favors his own kid, that’s all. Relax a little, ok?

Anonymous wrote:From the MSI Classic Program Manual:

PLAYING TIME (U10, U-11 AND U-12 AGE GROUPS)
MSI requires that every player on the roster in the U-10, U-11 and U-12 age groups who is present for the entirety of a game must play at least one half of the game. Violations of this rule may lead to forfeiture of the game(s) and / or additional sanctions. (Important note: This does not mean that everyone plays an equal amount of time; it means that everyone must play at least fifty percent of every game.)

As long as he has each player play at least one half, he is in compliance with the rule even if he plays his son the entire game. I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you don't like it, you can always step up and volunteer to coach.

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, maybe you or your DH can volunteer to coach and then play your child as much as you want.

My dh coached 6 seasons of rec soccer. He gave kids equal playing time. I realize that classic and travel is a different ballgame, but it surprised me. He doesn’t even give the best player on the team that much field time.

Great, your DH should be all set to coach an MSI team then.

He probably honestly believes that his kid is the best player, is the only one who really understands the way the coach wants the team to play, and the team plays better when he's on the field.

Some, all, or none of this may be true. It is very hard to find a parent who can really be objective when it comes to their own kid. Some are too hard on them, some think they are better than they really are, and sometimes it's a combination of the two.

From the MSI Classic Program Manual:

PLAYING TIME (U10, U-11 AND U-12 AGE GROUPS)
MSI requires that every player on the roster in the U-10, U-11 and U-12 age groups who is present for the entirety of a game must play at least one half of the game. Violations of this rule may lead to forfeiture of the game(s) and / or additional sanctions. (Important note: This does not mean that everyone plays an equal amount of time; it means that everyone must play at least fifty percent of every game.)

Anonymous wrote:Move to real travel and get a professional coach. They are unbiased and play based on talent.

Ha, that's cute!
Hope you don't really believe that.

I've had a travel coach that played the son of a big donor more minutes.
I've had a coach that played the kids paying for private training with him more minutes.
I've had a coach that played the kids of parents he was friends with more minutes.

I can go on, and I'm sure everyone here can too...

That seems kind of poor sportsmanship.

Move to real travel and get a professional coach. They are unbiased and play based on talent.

Anonymous wrote:Sorry, OP, maybe you or your DH can volunteer to coach and then play your child as much as you want.

My dh coached 6 seasons of rec soccer. He gave kids equal playing time. I realize that classic and travel is a different ballgame, but it surprised me. He doesn’t even give the best player on the team that much field time.

Sorry, OP, maybe you or your DH can volunteer to coach and then play your child as much as you want.

MSI Classic does not have equal playing time requirements at any age level. For U13 and above, there is no minimum playing time requirement.

Is this travel soccer or rec? Are there rules about equal play time? If NOT, then he probably considers it a perq of volunteering to coach.

My child join a parent-coached MSI Classic level team this year. The coach seems good, but I am surprised that he plays his child for all but 5 minutes of every single game. His child is good, sure, but not amazing—not scoring a lot of goals, makes plenty of mistakes just like the other kids. My kid isn’t the best on the team, so I get that my kid isn’t played a ton, but the inequity between coach kid and everyone else is blatant.

Would this bother you? We came from rec where everyone played pretty equally. Is this just something to expect?