Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

Well, the best paying job I could get right now would pay about $5-600k, but would require 50% travel and routinely working 70-hour weeks. I have decided to stay at my $3-400k job that requires only 20% travel and 50-hour weeks. Do you really think the better paying job would be better for my family? My kids are 2 and 4.

Anonymous wrote:For the purposes of this forum if you are a woman, yes. Man, no. That is all.

This does seem to be the way it plays out in these parts.

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

If your spouse is a SAHM you need to man up and get the better paying job. If you both work, less pressure and both need to equally have jobs that allow them to care for children and be home on time.

Because a high-stress, long-hours job is bad for a person's mental and physical health.

Because free time to spend with family and friends is valuable.

Because we can never get time back.

I know a guy whose wife constantly pressures him to go into higher paying work, while she’s a lawyer and refuses to work and he has to even take weekend jobs.

Yes, it is.

Now, you *both* have to find a way to make your salary work. If you say, don't want to make a lot of money but you are the one insisting on weekly golf outings or a new car, then that's a problem. If your spouse is being unreasonable in their demands for your income vs. their spending, that's *their* problem.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

If your spouse is a SAHM you need to man up and get the better paying job. If you both work, less pressure and both need to equally have jobs that allow them to care for children and be home on time.

Because stress is so great ?

A lot of stress is in your mind. If you're stressed out from work tasks, you need to get more organized or get some ADD meds.

Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

If your spouse is a SAHM you need to man up and get the better paying job. If you both work, less pressure and both need to equally have jobs that allow them to care for children and be home on time.

Because stress is so great ?

Why wouldn't you want the best paying job possible for your family?

If your spouse is a SAHM you need to man up and get the better paying job. If you both work, less pressure and both need to equally have jobs that allow them to care for children and be home on time.

Anonymous wrote:For the purposes of this forum if you are a woman, yes. Man, no. That is all.

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Anonymous wrote:? Who is the abuser?

significant other be it spouse or whatever

For the purposes of this forum if you are a woman, yes. Man, no. That is all.

Pressure from who?

Your parents, your spouse, your work hierarchy?

We face all kinds of pressures in this world. The way we communicate (clearly and respectfully) goes a long way to tone down the stress.

? Who is the abuser?

How are you being pressured into taking these jobs?

Any views on this or are you just supposed to “man up” and accept it?