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Anonymous wrote:I am one of those moms with no time, money, or willing family babysitters. I'm happy to do evenings if it's planned in advance and not super late on weeknights, but I don't have any interest in getting away for entire weekends. PP who mentioned women away from their kids 60 hours a week not wanting to miss them on weekends too was spot on. I really appreciate and value my frienda who are willing to meet me at my level.

Op here. I get it. I know. I was just venting. The first few years of motherhood were a blur. When I worked, I missed my kids. I still met up with my then childless friends. I would bring the baby with me.

Anonymous wrote:I am one of those moms with no time, money, or willing family babysitters. I'm happy to do evenings if it's planned in advance and not super late on weeknights, but I don't have any interest in getting away for entire weekends. PP who mentioned women away from their kids 60 hours a week not wanting to miss them on weekends too was spot on. I really appreciate and value my frienda who are willing to meet me at my level.

Anonymous wrote:I was the first amongst my friends to have a kid. Now I’m 40 and everyone has kids. My friends can’t or won’t go away ever. They have limited time and money or just don’t want to go away. I have 3 kids. These kids make me want a break! DH reminds me that not everyone has the resources to just go away. When my oldest was a baby/toddler, my friends were still single and getting married. We would go out often and go away. New mom friends also seem fine hanging out with kids but evenings and weekends seem to be reserved for husbands?

Maybe I’m the only one who wants to escape my 3 young children.

Anonymous wrote:oh Shut up. You are probably one of those people with eight willing family babysitter. I have tons of friends like you, thinking that everyone has grandparents who are jumping to come down and take care of their kids. No one in my family is willing or able to keep my kids overnight. I could hire someone, but seriously, what a pain. I’m rich, but my family sucks and my kids are young my husband works 80 hour weeks and I’m tired. (And I’m not even an “old” mom) Give me a break.

Anonymous wrote:I’d think you’d have a little more sympathy. Your friends are in the sh—t, as they say, and as older moms don’t have the energy younger moms do. Also, do they work FT? I know when mine were little I felt like I already didn’t see them 60 hours a week and to give up more time with them felt kind of crappy. Work was my “me” time.
If they are rrally your friends, you’ll hang in there and be there when they emerge when their kids are more self sufficient. Can’t you just hang out with them and their little ones? My three would love it if I had friends with babies. Babies are second only to puppies and kitties in their preferred ways to spend their time.

Anonymous wrote:Ugh I feel your pain. It seems like most moms these days have their own cases of separation anxiety. Their entire lives revolve around their kids and they can't fathom being without them for anything other than work. It's bizarre and unhealthy.