Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 16:52     Subject: Re:I’m not attracted to my husband
NP. Those of you who are saying fake it til you make it are giving me hope...does that actually work?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 16:39     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
What has changed in the last 5 weeks?

Be honest. New hot neighbor or coworker?

Did he make a stupid comment about Kavanaugh?

Something happened what is it?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 15:45     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.


five weeks. wait until its 5 months,.. in in the same boat. My DH doesn't;t even initiate.


I wish I could be in your DH's shoes. I'd initiate every night.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 15:40     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
Anonymous wrote:Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.


five weeks. wait until its 5 months,.. in in the same boat. My DH doesn't;t even initiate.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 15:34     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:yeah, I don't think I am either. And I don't think my dh likes me very much either. We are muddling though and hoping we can tolerate each other once the kids are older. Maybe schedule a date night? Try to remember the things that attracted you to him in the first place?


Do you go out together to grocery shop? School events for the kids? Do you have sex often?


No, not efficient with two kids. Yes. Never (I want to, he doesn't/can't.)


Sorry to hear. I'm sure he hates that he can't. I can't imagine being married and not having sex regularly. I'm 27, and hope my plumbing stays healthy long after I hit age 70.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 15:25     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:yeah, I don't think I am either. And I don't think my dh likes me very much either. We are muddling though and hoping we can tolerate each other once the kids are older. Maybe schedule a date night? Try to remember the things that attracted you to him in the first place?


Do you go out together to grocery shop? School events for the kids? Do you have sex often?


No, not efficient with two kids. Yes. Never (I want to, he doesn't/can't.)
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 15:15     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
Anonymous wrote:yeah, I don't think I am either. And I don't think my dh likes me very much either. We are muddling though and hoping we can tolerate each other once the kids are older. Maybe schedule a date night? Try to remember the things that attracted you to him in the first place?


Do you go out together to grocery shop? School events for the kids? Do you have sex often?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 15:09     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
yeah, I don't think I am either. And I don't think my dh likes me very much either. We are muddling though and hoping we can tolerate each other once the kids are older. Maybe schedule a date night? Try to remember the things that attracted you to him in the first place?
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 15:05     Subject: Re:I’m not attracted to my husband
Anonymous wrote:It's easy to get bored having sex with the same person for many years and it's easy to come up with superficial reasons for it. Is no one initiating? Get on the internet and find a bunch of ways to spice up your sex life and there are hundreds of way to do it. A little mind blowing sex can do wonders for a relationship. We've been married over 30 years and we both still like to come back for more.


People aren't wired the way they once were. No one wants to struggle. No one wants to put in work. They want to be spoon fed their entire life. Hence why the divorce rate is where it's at, and why more and more people are single until they croak.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 12:11     Subject: Re:I’m not attracted to my husband
It's easy to get bored having sex with the same person for many years and it's easy to come up with superficial reasons for it. Is no one initiating? Get on the internet and find a bunch of ways to spice up your sex life and there are hundreds of way to do it. A little mind blowing sex can do wonders for a relationship. We've been married over 30 years and we both still like to come back for more.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 11:59     Subject: Re:I’m not attracted to my husband
Agree with what others have posted. Also, it won't ever be what it once was. Things and people change. Once kids are introduced, so are a slew of other issues. All I can suggest is that you both talk and make changes. GL, OP.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 11:54     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
1) Make appointment with a dentist.
2) Join a gym and start walking together.
3) Fake till you make it is good advice.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 11:40     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
Anonymous wrote:Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.


Fake it until you make it. Also, how much time do you spend alone or connecting with him? When is the last time you had date night? spent a weekend away together? You have to invest in your relationship...he, for example, can’t be his funny or witty self that you were attracted to if you do not make time for just the two of you.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 11:36     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
Grow up and realize without sex you're basically roommates. Think of Jason Momoa if you have to, but work on reconnecting your attraction circuits towards your husband or you will get divorced.
Anonymous
Post 10/14/2018 11:32     Subject: I’m not attracted to my husband
Married 5 years with a 2 year old. He’s a good guy who works hard for the family. I have a healthy libido but I’m just not attracted to him. I used to be, but something changed and I’m not sure what it is. I can point to superficial things (he’s about 20 lbs overweight and doesn’t take care of his teeth, so they’re yellow and full of tartar) but I don’t think that’s it because when I met him he was at least 60 lbs overweight and I was attracted to him anyway. We haven’t had sex in 5 weeks and it’s really starting to hurt our relationship. I love him and don’t want to get divorced but I don’t know what to do.