Anonymous wrote:My good friend snuck out in HS in the 90s. Boys climbing in and out of windows, driving to a nearby college town in the middle of the night to party before school. She’s a productive member of society now.
But she says her parents were just so strict and critical of her. They didn’t know she was sneaking out but tried to control her every word and move during the day. She said she would have endured any punishment they gave her. Something to think about.

Sometimes kids do it and their parents are strict. Kids get involved with drugs and alcohol or other kids who are bad influencers. Sometimes it is not the parents fault when they trust their once good kids.

Saw a friend go through this with a few of their kids.

Anonymous wrote:Security system installed asap. You don’t tell them the code.

They’ll still try to get away with stuff when they are allowed out. But you won’t have to worry at night.

-signed. Former sneaker outer. The only friend who couldn’t had parents who did ^

Yep. Our alarm has a code for every member of the family. So it will say, Mary disarmed the system at 2:02 am. Her window opened at 2:03. It closed at 2:04, etc. We can set it to sound an audible alarm on our cell phone if it is disarmed after we go to bed at night.

As an aside, it’s nice when we aren’t home to check and see when kids get home from school, sports, etc.

FrontPoint. Less than $200 on Amazon. Very easy to install. You can also pay for monthly monitoring, but you don’t have to.

We never snuck out but my parents didn’t have strict curfews. I think about all of the stuff we did anyway and it worries me, even in day hours. I’m more worried about that than them sneaking out. I am trying to keep communication open and raise responsible young adults. They will make mistakes but I want them to know that they can tell me anything. My parents don’t know and should never know half of the stuff we did though.

I snuck out some in highschool. I’m hearing from friends with teens 15 and up that’s they have dealt with it. And it’s often going to someone’s house. Usually someone with a big house where parents less likely to hear them.

My good friend snuck out in HS in the 90s. Boys climbing in and out of windows, driving to a nearby college town in the middle of the night to party before school. She’s a productive member of society now.
But she says her parents were just so strict and critical of her. They didn’t know she was sneaking out but tried to control her every word and move during the day. She said she would have endured any punishment they gave her. Something to think about.

This behavior did not end well for a family in Fairfax.

Anonymous wrote:Ok. So is this pretty common? I’m hearing they’re getting around late at night (really early morning) in Uber

No. It's not common. Don't normalize such behavior.

Ok. So is this pretty common? I’m hearing they’re getting around late at night (really early morning) in Uber

There are tracking apps for cell phone and your cars. Many time they sneak out and drive your car. The apps will alert you when things happen.

Anonymous wrote:Alarms on doors and windows

This

Install a new motion detector too!

Security system installed asap. You don’t tell them the code.

They’ll still try to get away with stuff when they are allowed out. But you won’t have to worry at night.

-signed. Former sneaker outer. The only friend who couldn’t had parents who did ^

Alarms on doors and windows

Alert the parents of those homes.

Read your teen the riot act, pointing to news stories where teens where shot to death by homeowners for coming into homes that weren't theirs.

What did you do? How did you prevent in the future? Thanks.