How is your relationship in general? When I'm not emotionally connected to DH deep kidding is repulsive and feels like I'm being violated.

Anonymous wrote:I hate it when my DH gets a bit scruffy, it irritates my lips and skin. When the relationship was new and everything was more exciting I could easily overlook it, but we've been together 15 years, it's simply not as exciting anymore, and things like facial hair are more distracting than they used to be.

This.

Shave

I hate it when my DH gets a bit scruffy, it irritates my lips and skin. When the relationship was new and everything was more exciting I could easily overlook it, but we've been together 15 years, it's simply not as exciting anymore, and things like facial hair are more distracting than they used to be.

OP, how’s your sex life and how often do you have sex? I don’t buy the mustache excuse. For many, kissing is a very intimate act - far more so than sex - and I’d be worried she’s no longer comfortable doing that.

Maybe she has a mustache and is sensitive about it.

Anonymous wrote:How's your oral health? My DH would get more kisses if he brushed and glossed twice a damn day.

OP here, oral health is great. I mean I get morning breath like anyone, lol, but she is never hesitant to kindly ask me to brush or something. That's only in the morning though. She's just not that into the kissing in general. a PP said she's a bit uptight, and that's accurate in many respects. I guess this is one of them.

idk, i'm frustrated.

How's your oral health? My DH would get more kisses if he brushed and glossed twice a damn day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s totally a thing! When my husband grows out his scruff past a certain point it tickles my nose and I can’t keep kissing him. Shave and see what happens

That's the messed up thing... I've had a mustache for YEARS I mean the entire time we've been together. it's a part of me. I can't just shave it. No other woman has ever complained. But I guess I can trim it down really short? I am hesitant to shave it off completely.

Also, there doesn't even seem to be the *desire* (hunger, whatever) any more. or maybe i changed and want more of that.

As i suspected. It’s an excuse for just not wanting you as much.

Sorry bro

I love kissing, just not my DH because his lips are thin, not fleshy. He’s always known this and has never been insulted since I told him 17 years ago that his tongue more than makes up for it! Now we jokingly appreciate that our DS has beautiful full lips (my DNA) and he also has a great butt (also me). We purposely say it to DS 15 (sans the tongue part) and he hates it, which makes it funnier.

That said OP, if it’s important to you be clear that you need it. It’s just kissing and she seems uptight. Maybe it’s your breath and she doesn’t want to make you feel bad. If you don’t want to shave your stach then soften it up with fragrance free oil. I still kiss my DH, but push him to other more erogenious spots. He likes that compromise!

Standing by for DCUM women to tell OP to do more chores, more child care, more emotional labor, blah blah blah.

Wives get bored with husbands. It's natural. There's nothing you can do about it. Except don't get married... ooops, too late.

Anonymous wrote:It’s totally a thing! When my husband grows out his scruff past a certain point it tickles my nose and I can’t keep kissing him. Shave and see what happens

That's the messed up thing... I've had a mustache for YEARS I mean the entire time we've been together. it's a part of me. I can't just shave it. No other woman has ever complained. But I guess I can trim it down really short? I am hesitant to shave it off completely.

Also, there doesn't even seem to be the *desire* (hunger, whatever) any more. or maybe i changed and want more of that.

It’s totally a thing! When my husband grows out his scruff past a certain point it tickles my nose and I can’t keep kissing him. Shave and see what happens

Honestly, sounds like a lame excuse but whatever. Try shaving your stache off to see if it helps. What does she want? My DW tells me what she likes or doesn't like. She doesn't like tongue anymore, just to suck on my lip so i oblige.

My wife doesn't kiss me with the passion that I want/am looking for. We have been married a while, over 10 years, but she always pulls back when she kisses. Remember when we used to make out when we were younger? Tongue, open mouth, passion, getting lost in the kissing? We don't do that. Not sure we can do that.

I don't know what to do about it. Tried talking about it with her, the only problem that came up was my mustache messes with her nose and throws her off. Maybe that's a thing? What do ya'll think?