Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Giving my tween son a hug in front of his friends!!

(When he doesn't behave, I tell him he's going to pay for it when it is most inconvenient)

I love hugs, he hates them and nobody is going to call social services. It's perfect

Non-consensual physical affection as punishment?

Do you also talk to him about consent in his intimate relationships?

Oh, good grief. Give me a break.

Lost cell phone for 3 months because she was pretending to be someone she wasn’t on the internet.

Anonymous wrote:Giving my tween son a hug in front of his friends!!

(When he doesn't behave, I tell him he's going to pay for it when it is most inconvenient)

I love hugs, he hates them and nobody is going to call social services. It's perfect

Non-consensual physical affection as punishment?

Do you also talk to him about consent in his intimate relationships?

I made him donate his xbox after he lied to me about playing it during times it was off-limits.

Requiring 12 or 13 yo to clean the house from top to bottom. I don't even remember what she did to deserve it, but I recall that it took her a few days of work.

He had to play racquet ball with me 2 times a week for a few weeks.

It wasn't to remind him that I put a roof over his head though.

I unhooked the xBox. It's sitting in my closet for, as far as DS knows, eternity.
Massive, unabated disrespect over homework- but guess what? After taking the xBox, he got so bored, he picked up Animal Farm from our bookshelf and is about 2/3 of the way through. We had a book discussion yesterday- made me so happy.

Did not take her to a concert to which we had tickets and that she was looking forward to (for lying abiut something important). Her sister and dad went, and I stayed home and took the brunt of her anger and disappointment. It sucked, because I would have liked to go too, but was not going to leave her at home alone to play video games for an evening. (Plus, as Eddard Stark said, "he who passes the sentence should swing the sword")

I threaten all the time (take away phone) and never carry out.

Giving my tween son a hug in front of his friends!!

(When he doesn't behave, I tell him he's going to pay for it when it is most inconvenient)

I love hugs, he hates them and nobody is going to call social services. It's perfect

Anonymous wrote:During high school, I took the car keys away for a week. He lied to me about wearing his retainer. Silly, I know, but don't lie to me. He had to take the bus to school and I would pick him up from athletic practice.

That’s it?!

My worst was being grounded for the entire quarter if my grades dropped below a 97 (we didn’t have a 4.0 scale). No phone with friends, no going out, could only watch TV with my parents in the living room (we didn’t have TVs in our rooms anyway though).

When they were younger, the worst punishment was an old fashioned spanking, which we carried out on some occasions.

As older kids, they haven't given us any reason to punish them.

Anonymous wrote:During high school, I took the car keys away for a week. He lied to me about wearing his retainer. Silly, I know, but don't lie to me. He had to take the bus to school and I would pick him up from athletic practice.

This is a standard go to for my teen driver. Driving is the ultimate privilege.

I took a phone for the the full summer a few years ago. He was 15 at the time.

I’ve had 10 days of “hard labor” (mainly yard work, mopping floors, cleaning walls, power washing house), with no electronics. Once labor was over he would read. He read a book a day for ten days.

During high school, I took the car keys away for a week. He lied to me about wearing his retainer. Silly, I know, but don't lie to me. He had to take the bus to school and I would pick him up from athletic practice.

By now most of us have probably done something extreme to remind them who put a roof over their heads.