We needed not to share a donor and use fresh eggs b/c of MFI. We also used an agency and the donor we selected wanted to do her retrieval in California (she had done her prior cycles there and was comfortable there), so we switched to an RE there. The donor had timing restrictions, so we did have to wait about 6 months until transfer, but normally the agency wants the cycle to be complete (at least egg retrieval) within 3 months of selecting the donor. We also did PGS testing, so that added time.
The RE was $17K (which included a second shot if the first didn't work), PGS was about $8K (we had to pay extra b/c we ended up with a lot to test), my meds were in the 100s. Agency fee was $10K, which included the lawyer fees. We were required to talk to a counselor, which was just a 1 hr consult, so probably $150 or so. You also pay for donor meds and insurance. Donor meds were the typical costs for IVF and I don't remember the insurance cost. Then we had the donor fee and her travel (with a companion) and our travel. I don't remember those exactly, but in the $10Ks. Total was definitely over $50K spread over about 6 months since our timing was stretched out.
I initially picked a donor with frozen eggs, but REs told us that b/c of MF, we needed fresh and shouldn't share. I only looked at proven donors (and ones with exceptional results - using an agency was helpful to get more detailed info on prior cycles), who tend to have a bit higher of a donor fee. It was also more important to me to pick a donor that was a good fit overall than to be local, hence the travel. In hindsight, we probably could have used frozen or done a share, but it wasn't recommended and spending more to get as close to a sure thing seemed smarter than spending a lot and then failing and either not being able to do another round or spending a ton more on another round.
Picking the donor took me months, and b/c of our criteria we had a pretty narrow pool. We did find someone who was a perfect fit, though.