STEM majors don’t all make bank, especially at the beginning of their careers. Stop comparing and thinking that their life is all perfect and will be forever and ever. Unfortunately everyone gets a share of lumps and challenges in life. Look at all the people in NC — rich and poor, the hurricane and massive flooding didn’t discriminate.

What’s keeping you and your DH from getting your finances together? Maybe stop reading everyone’s facebook posts and read some Dave Ramsey instead. Challenge yourselves to be in better financial shape by this time next year. Seems you have some free time — get a second job.

Oh please, marriage is tough at any age. The key is the level of maturity at that point and it's alway different.

Married at 34, and expecting our first at 36. It takes time for most, esp in today's society. Don't get to anxious, and, don't believe all the bs on social media. Of course only the good will be reported.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I started dating when I was 19. Got engaged at 21. Married at 23, first kid just before I turned 25. I’m 30 now and can’t imagine what I would’ve been doing with myself for the last however many years!

Yikes! I can think of a million things that you could’ve been doing in your 20s. But I guess you’ll get to do them in your 40s instead (less the endless amount of energy).

Have fun wasting your youth feeling like a loser. That’s a horrible way to live. Maybe you need to stay off of Facebook. Also, what does it mean to afford a child? You have a baby and prioritize to fit it into your current budget and lifestyle.

DH and I started dating when I was 19. Got engaged at 21. Married at 23, first kid just before I turned 25. I’m 30 now and can’t imagine what I would’ve been doing with myself for the last however many years!

Aside from people from my parents’ generation and older I have never known anyone who married in their early 20s who didn’t eventually get divorced.

First, marriage is a crapshoot. At any age.

Second, when you truly want something, you get it and make it work.


I had my first child at 25 while in grad school. Our combined salary was below 60K. DC1 went to daycare. DC2 came 5 years later when income was at 80K. We bought a house on that salary, BTW, with a 40% downpayment we had scraped together for a decade while living in a one bedroom.

I'm sure you have options, OP. You just don't want to exercise them.

Most people I know who married that young are divorced now.

Anonymous wrote:I just noticed a friend of my younger sisters is pregnant on my Facebook feed. She is 26.married at 24. Her husband is also 26. I notice he is a stem major and probably makes bank. They look like they have their life figured out.

Meanwhile husband and I are early thirties. Still can’t afgord a child. Or a house.

Lol. Feel like a loser.

Stay off FB and live your life. People who marry younger are also more likely to get divorced.

I wish I was in your shoes. You at least have someone I’m 34 and alone. Pretty much accepted I’ll dlways be single.

You will be a loser if that is your attitude. Get off social media and live your own life. I have a niece who is always on social media projecting a very happy life and I just found out her husband lost his job and has gone into rehab. Tragic.

I married at 24, had a kid at 26. Husband went to Harvard. I’m also an Ivy leaguer. I definitely made a mistake marrying him! He’s a jerk and I was too simple.

The grass is always greener on the other side......be thankful for what you have. Facebook lies.

Hon, I was married at 26. Still married 20+ years later. Enjoy your singlehood! Savor every sweet drop. Go out tonight!!

I just noticed a friend of my younger sisters is pregnant on my Facebook feed. She is 26.married at 24. Her husband is also 26. I notice he is a stem major and probably makes bank. They look like they have their life figured out.

Meanwhile husband and I are early thirties. Still can’t afgord a child. Or a house.

Lol. Feel like a loser.