Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 11:05     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Anonymous wrote:DH is paying for their college right now. In fact, he pays for everything. I make sure of it. I have been miserable for a long time. Nothing DH has done. I just don't like him anymore. I have had an escape valve on the side - an AP - but do not see him as marriage material. Just hope DH does not find out.


Troll alert
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 11:00     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Anonymous wrote:DH is paying for their college right now. In fact, he pays for everything. I make sure of it. I have been miserable for a long time. Nothing DH has done. I just don't like him anymore. I have had an escape valve on the side - an AP - but do not see him as marriage material. Just hope DH does not find out.


Your kids are really going to love you when they find out you were cheating and left their dad with no retirement.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 11:00     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Anonymous wrote:I am considering to divorce DH. We have approximately $1.2 million in assets. Assuming I get 50 percent, that's not much is it?


You get 50 percent unless he goes scorched earth. If he does that, you'll be lucky to end up with $100k.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 09:27     Subject: Re:Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
DH pays for everything. You have an AP. Yet you are miserable. You reap what you sow.
Get a divorce and try to be fair to your oblivious DH.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 09:19     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Anonymous wrote:DH is paying for their college right now. In fact, he pays for everything. I make sure of it. I have been miserable for a long time. Nothing DH has done. I just don't like him anymore. I have had an escape valve on the side - an AP - but do not see him as marriage material. Just hope DH does not find out.


Then you are set - one to pay the bills and the second to "serve" you. Sounds like a win-win situ.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 09:16     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Anonymous wrote:Yes. Kids grown up and out of the house. I earn about the same as DH.


So you have no basis for complaint. You'll both have the same assets and earning power. Go your separate ways. Focus on building assets for retirement.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 08:43     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
$600k = "not much."
Having an affair.
Husband pays for everything.
Husband is a decent guy.

This seems too cartoonish to be real -- like an MRA's caricature of what women are like: money grubbing, faithless, and easily bored.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 08:30     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
DH is paying for their college right now. In fact, he pays for everything. I make sure of it. I have been miserable for a long time. Nothing DH has done. I just don't like him anymore. I have had an escape valve on the side - an AP - but do not see him as marriage material. Just hope DH does not find out.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 07:56     Subject: Re:Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
$600K is not much but you are not old and you have a job.

Get a financial planner and a lawyer and get out. Life is too short.

I have $800K (myself), kids in college and a job (with retirement) and I am getting out as soon as possible without screwing the college fund.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 07:55     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
How old are you both? Are you done paying for college?
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 07:53     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Prepare to divorce him. But first offer to do marriage counseling. Enough is enough.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 07:52     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Why are you here writing about it. Go to an attorney and start the process.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 07:51     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Yes. Kids grown up and out of the house. I earn about the same as DH.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 07:46     Subject: Re:Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
Do you have a job? kids?
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2018 07:28     Subject: Twenty years of marriage, I am miserable...
I am considering to divorce DH. We have approximately $1.2 million in assets. Assuming I get 50 percent, that's not much is it?