Anonymous wrote:What if said spouse gained 50 lbs?

Which comes first, the weight gain or the rejection?

Anyway, the answer is still yes. However, you can hold out for frequent sex as a reward for losing weight. How about a baseline of sex twice a week, but every week he loses a pound earns a reward of another encounter, or bj, or role playing, etc?

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Anonymous wrote:Does the wife owe her husband sex even if she’s not in the mood for it?

Does the husband owe her mongamy even if he’s not in the mood for it?

If he wasn't interested in monogamy for life then he shouldn't have gotten married. That's kind of the point of getting married. And it's in most people's vows - "to forsake all others".

Most people don't have "to always have regular sex with my husband no matter how he treats me or no matter what life throws at us" in their vows.

But I agree that it's not ideal and usually a sign of deeper issues.

Owe? No. Is it good for the marriage to sometimes do it when you’re not really in the mood? Yes.

Unpack what you mean by “owe.” Do you mean the wife is a bad person if she doesn’t put out? That it should be grounds for divorce? That it justifies cheating? I don’t think any of those are true. But considering your spouse’s needs and desires is key to a healthy relationship.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does the wife owe her husband sex even if she’s not in the mood for it?

Does the husband owe her mongamy even if he’s not in the mood for it?

PP that is a different question. When you marry you are supposed to "forsake all others" so my advice would be don't get married if you plan on cheating.

To the op:

No, one is not entitled to sex just because you want it. Marry a robot if you want a servant and not a partner OR be a better partner so she wants it.

What if said spouse gained 50 lbs?

Absolutely. The vows I took made this clear:

and forsaking all others keep thee only unto her as long as you both shall live?

I promised not only to forsake all others, but to make myself sexually available to her.

So, the occasional not being in the mood is OK, but repeated rejection of her sexual advances would be breaking my vows.

When you marry someone, you agree to give your whole life, body, and soul to each other. I suppose that theoretically, you could have a marriage without sex, but I think something important and fundamental to marriage would be missing.

Anonymous wrote:Does the wife owe her husband sex even if she’s not in the mood for it?

Does the husband owe her mongamy even if he’s not in the mood for it?

Are partners in marriage entitled to fidelity?
The answer to my question is the answer to yours.

You don't owe someone sex if you're not in the mood right now, sure.

However it is unfair and, I believe, a violation of marriage vows (or at least marriage commitment) to unilaterally condemn your spouse to a life without sex.

Perhaps it's not going to be daily or every other day as one partner might want, but a compromise and regular physical expression of love is a part of marriage, barring disability.

Yes. And I’m a wife. But it must be consensual.
That’s the whole point of a bow. It works both ways.

Not every moment but in general yes, that's the deal.

No. No one owes anyone else sex.


However, if here is an intimacy issue, the couple needs to communicate and to seek help if they cannot communicate.

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Does the wife owe her husband sex even if she’s not in the mood for it?