Anonymous
Post 09/06/2018 22:42     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Anonymous wrote:time, empathy, counseling


Can you elaborate on the empathy part? How do you feel empathy towards the wayward spouse?
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2018 19:21     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.





Sadly, this is the mentally of most women that have cheating husbands. Its about the money and prestige.



Generally accepted that the DH is doesn’t care about OP ( it’s just sex) but when the DW cheats the marriage is over ( because she cares more about AP).


I know some friends (men) who definitely fell in love with the AP. Not just sex.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2018 19:19     Subject: Re:If you stayed with your cheating spouse
The first month I was suicidal and only the presence of my kids kept me alive.

The next year involved a ton of pain and working on rebuilding trust.

Four years later, I don’t think about it all the time any more. I am still sad that my marriage has this huge scar, but I don’t want the upheaval divorce would bring me or the kids. Time does help.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2018 14:43     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Anonymous wrote:I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.






He's gross, but hopefully you're smart enough never to have sex with the creeper again. Have fun, spend the money, but let him catch the diseases.
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2018 10:01     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.





Sadly, this is the mentally of most women that have cheating husbands. Its about the money and prestige.


Or the IL's money. She is not staying for nothing. "Oh he wants some young thing" should not be an acceptable excuse to "forgive".
Anonymous
Post 09/06/2018 08:53     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Why the double standard?
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 09:41     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.





Sadly, this is the mentally of most women that have cheating husbands. Its about the money and prestige.



Generally accepted that the DH is doesn’t care about OP ( it’s just sex) but when the DW cheats the marriage is over ( because she cares more about AP).
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 08:02     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Anonymous wrote:I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.





Sadly, this is the mentally of most women that have cheating husbands. Its about the money and prestige.
Anonymous
Post 09/02/2018 07:59     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.





You don’t worry about disease? Especially from a man who pays prostitutes?


+1
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 22:38     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
time, empathy, counseling
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 22:28     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
Anonymous wrote:I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.





You don’t worry about disease? Especially from a man who pays prostitutes?
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 21:22     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
I'm his wife, with all the benefits. He's not going to leave me and I'm not going to surrender my lifestyle because he wants to pay for BJs. It's just really not that big of a deal.



Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 21:16     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
I tried for a year. Didn’t work.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 17:28     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
You either decide to trust again or not.
Anonymous
Post 09/01/2018 17:25     Subject: If you stayed with your cheating spouse
How did you get past the fact that they cheated?