False. It may be true for many people, and it may be reasonable to default to that assumption, but “always” is a strong statement.

-Former player in my 20s, monogamous for 20+ years

Anonymous wrote:It's testosterone fuelled. He will be a player for a while but settle down in his 40s

Wow sexist much....I know many women players. Do you think women can’t be players?

There are actual fact based statistics that prove someone who cheated once is X% likely to do so again. Google it.

Not once they reach an age where the testosterone plummets, ED kicks in, and can't take the little blue pill because of heart issues. It's amazing how my father, a player through three wives, five kids, and many decades, finally settled down. In his mid-50's.

Define player.

What actually does it mean to be a player? Only male? or both male & female?

True, at least, from my experience.

Players will be players... until a game changer comes along.

It's testosterone fuelled. He will be a player for a while but settle down in his 40s

False. Some people go through player phases while others live their life there. I would never try to settle down with someone who was actively in a player phase but if he was one in college or something? Meh.

~stomp

Yes, my ex was a player. When he was in medical school
a female professor pulled me aside and said he will stump on your heart and leave you. She was right. I was nursing student and I was young and dumb.

Always.

Let's see -

"Once someone shows you who they are, believe them."

"A leopard doesn't change its spots."

I won't go on.

A dog of a guy I know, used to play around on his wife all the time about 20 years ago. I thought he might stop since he stopped drinking.

Guess what? He hasn't.

One more - "once a pig always a pig".

You're not special, sweetie. If he's cheating on his wife with you, he'll cheat on you eventually. It's only a matter of time.

True. Because it’s their personality. They either can’t settle down or be happy with what they have. Or the have narcissistic tendencies

Once a player, always a player? Why or why not?