My DD is 2 and is only 17lbs 12oz. She was born at 23 weeks 5 days. She does not have a reflux issue, oral adversions, allergies etc.. she just doesn't really like to eat. They have tested her for everything: all negative. She can eat and swallow well, but some days she may only have half of a banana and a few cheerios. She got sick in January and was taking pediasure with benecalorie and maintaining her weight (hasn't change for 6 months until now... she's losing), but after she got sick she will only drink juice and no longer pediasure. We still add the benecalorie but it's not doing a lot. We have tried every trick in the book, honestly I think we have spent hundreds on food ideas and countless hours cooking up foods... only to have a few bites. So now they want to do a NG tube. Another dr says to do a MIC KEY... what do I do? Here are my concerns/thoughs
NG:
Pros:
NOT a surgery (I'm terrified of her going under... she was on a vent for 8 weeks of her life and her lungs were badly damaged, so it scares me).
Quick way to check if the tube will help her gain etc
Cons:
She's TWO

I'm scared she will just pull it out all the time. She is going through a phase at night that she doesn't want to go to bed, so I'm scared that she will def try to pull it out at night.
Scared at night that the cord will tangle around her if we try to do night feeding,
Scared it will go into her lungs
Day feedings: scared she will pull it out, but at least I can watch her and have more control over it vs at night where I feel like I would never rest thinking something bad would happen
G-tube
Pros: it's hidden, not as easy to pull out
Cons: worried about mantainace, SURGERY, and any complications... feels more permanent
ADVICE???