I don't follow or message anyone on IG but I look at pics of models.

I don't think it would have been a big deal, except that he lied to you about following them, so that makes it sketchy.

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea what he follows on social media. Honestly, I have too much real shit to be worried over than that.

+1. Lol! Don’t know and don’t care.

I have no idea what he follows on social media. Honestly, I have too much real shit to be worried over than that.

Anonymous wrote:No, he has no social media aside from LinkedIn, which is very new. This would bug me, mostly because I think it's tacky and embarrassing for a grown man.

I feel the same. I think, it is a bit tacky. Especially since our mutual friends/family are on Instagram as well. I sometimes wonder what they may think... If I can see it, then they can see it as well.

Anonymous wrote:No, he has no social media aside from LinkedIn, which is very new. This would bug me, mostly because I think it's tacky and embarrassing for a grown man.

+ 1

Social media is pretty female dominated.

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a career and children. He has no time for instagram...

+ 1

I think that's weird OP. For me it would be a red flag.

Anonymous wrote:My husband follows a lot of fitness models on Instagram. Also MMA fighters. It's eye candy + his interests.

If he followed a bunch of the just straight-up porn ones, I'd make fun of him. But I don't begrudge him some eye candy, and I don't suspect him of sliding into anybody's DMs. If your husband is sketchy in general and trying to get these women to send him pics or talk to him or doing anything other than just looking at their feed, that's a different issue.

PP, this is exactly my husband. He follows musicians, fitness models, MMA fighters etc. which I think then brings these people on his feed or they request to follow him.

Honestly, I think it is a bit embarrassing. I haven't really mentioned it, but it does bother me a bit. Some of these 'models' even like his picture when he posts a selfie of himself. My husband is in his late 50's and he has always had issues with boundaries in our marriage. I'm much much younger than he is. I don't know if it is a self-esteem issue. I have to admit though that I'm losing respect for him.

I follow dozens of models on IG. I like looking at attractive women. I don’t think it would surprise my wife as she knows I watch porn.

No, he has no social media aside from LinkedIn, which is very new. This would bug me, mostly because I think it's tacky and embarrassing for a grown man.

DH doesn't Instagram, but that'd bother me. Not in a "let's rush to sign divorce papers! How dare you!" but more in a "so...you follow actual people and they follow you, but you've never met? What do you get out of that relationship?"

My husband has a career and children. He has no time for instagram...

My husband follows a lot of fitness models on Instagram. Also MMA fighters. It's eye candy + his interests.

If he followed a bunch of the just straight-up porn ones, I'd make fun of him. But I don't begrudge him some eye candy, and I don't suspect him of sliding into anybody's DMs. If your husband is sketchy in general and trying to get these women to send him pics or talk to him or doing anything other than just looking at their feed, that's a different issue.

It's basically softcore porn. Opinions will differ quite a bit as to whether that's no big deal, the path to eternal hellfire, or something in between.

I noticed that my husband literally follows thousands of pages on Instagram. He also has a few hundred followers. I looked through some of them the other day and there were lots and lots of 'models'. He claims not knowing that he 'followed' them. I find this a bit odd, but I'm not that active on Instagram and I really do not use it all that much. I mainly use FB for keeping in contact with family/friends. I'm not sure what to make of this. I'm a bit taken back and I don't know if I should be upset about this or just let it go.