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Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Sometimes, I ran into three guys in the multi category on Tinder. They had other big issues too. I even dated a pro golfer from Tinder.

And I would like to add that I wasn't specifically looking for high earners, it just happened that way. Most don't advertise themselves as such.

Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Sometimes, I ran into three guys in the multi category on Tinder. They had other big issues too. I even dated a pro golfer from Tinder.

I think it depends on what you like. I am a woman and I've lived in DC and a major city in the southeast. I prefer guys who are liberal, educated, smart, and kinda nerdy, and I don't care much about height or how they dress. So DC guys are a good fit for me. But I think in some ways the SE city had more guys - they were better looking, too. But since I'm not that into sports and don't date republicans, etc, they weren't really my type most of the time.

Anonymous wrote:For African American women looking for African men only, DC is historically a difficult place to find a mate.

You really have to prioritize dating and bring your A-game to the table. There are tons of good looking, fit, intelligent women in the city. The same with men too, when you are open to dating other folks, it broadens the playing field.

True. I was better educated and outearned most black men I met when I was single. I didn’t care, but they did. The ones who were similarly situated to me mostly did not date AA women. I heard some ridiculous excuses like AA women weren’t athletic, didn’t like sci-fi, don’t have passports. All three of those claims were negated by me and my single AA friends, but the stereotypes continue.

I did date and marry interracially. It didn’t work out. I then met and married an AA man with a Ph.D who I don’t outearn. He is slightly older though (5 years) and previously divorced.

Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Some insecure men are threatened by women with successful careers, which may eclipse their own or require lots of time and effort. I wasn't one of those women but have seen it in some of my friends

Anonymous wrote:Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Congratulations on your gold digging prowess, hope you landed the big one.

Married now, but I found it very easy. There are tons of great men out there. I’m attractive, but had practically no career, and I still had no problems.

You just have to learn where to find them, put yourself in positions where you can meet them, and be fun/friendly/outgoing. I know people say women who can’t find men have standards that are way too high, but l had even multimillionaires who were interested. You just have to go places in real life where they’ll be, online isn’t the best place to find rich guys.

Anonymous wrote:Many of the women on this board are mean, materialistic, and very “what’s in it for me?” Which might make it difficult to find a mate.

This board is hardly representative of women in the DMV.

Keep in mind that you have a critical mass of people here in the DMV that you don't have in other areas. For example, my friends in smaller towns have a much smaller universe of people to choose from and many of them are undesirable.

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if dating in other areas of the country is easier vs. the DMV? I'm married, but most of my girlfriends/co-workers are single and every single one complains about the difficulties of dating in the DMV. These are beautiful and accomplished women who are looking to get married and start a family. Is it easier to find a date/husband in other areas of the country (South, West Coast etc.)?

Is this even a question? Yes, it's easier in other parts of the country.

Having lived as a young adult in major northeastern and western cities, I never had any trouble scrounging up a girl friend. Then I moved to DC.

Game changer. I couldn't even get a date, let a lone a "partner." Did I become a geek the moment I stepped over the DC line? I don't think so.

Here is the problem with the DC-area. People here can be very guarded socially and sometimes downright cold. What we have here are women who will not give themselves permission. Many of them have entire litanies of reasons why they shouldn't date this one or that one. I hear it from women friends all of the time and just roll my eyes.

My advice to the ladies would be to give men a chance, that's all. FWIW, the unmarried, under 30 U.S. Senator you're waiting for is a Unicorn, he doesn't exist, so take that phone call from the B level lawyer or the program analyst and go out on a date. You might just, you know, have fun!

For African American women looking for African men only, DC is historically a difficult place to find a mate.

You really have to prioritize dating and bring your A-game to the table. There are tons of good looking, fit, intelligent women in the city. The same with men too, when you are open to dating other folks, it broadens the playing field.

Many of the women on this board are mean, materialistic, and very “what’s in it for me?” Which might make it difficult to find a mate.

Interesting. I’m a guy and go through same problem here.

My single friends in other major cities are struggling. They are all fit, attractive and have at least a master’s degree

I wonder if dating in other areas of the country is easier vs. the DMV? I'm married, but most of my girlfriends/co-workers are single and every single one complains about the difficulties of dating in the DMV. These are beautiful and accomplished women who are looking to get married and start a family. Is it easier to find a date/husband in other areas of the country (South, West Coast etc.)?