Anonymous wrote:OP. I never ever started fantasizing about other people during sex or at any other time UNTIL DH and I started having rough times.

How is your relationship with your husband? Start there, because I think that is critical.

I have a great relationship with my DH and once in awhile I do fantasize about someone else, no one that I actually know. I think my DH is the beneficiary because I get a little crazier as its like a dreamlike ONS and I forget that I've got kids down the hall.

I have wondered if my DH ever fantasizes but frankly I don't care because I'm the one who is enjoying it. If he called out another woman's name that would get my attention.

Anonymous wrote:I totally don't get the man-beard thing. Totally yucky.

Construction worker+beard=masculine man

OP. I never ever started fantasizing about other people during sex or at any other time UNTIL DH and I started having rough times.

How is your relationship with your husband? Start there, because I think that is critical.

Anonymous wrote:I totally don't get the man-beard thing. Totally yucky.

Is there a different kind of beard than a "man-beard"? Woman-beard? I'm confused.

Anonymous wrote:It's definitely not abnormal but asking your husband to grow a beard because the construction guy has one is pushing the fantasy a little too far. Hopefully the construction project will soon end and you can get on with life. Whatever you do, don't ask to see the guys tools.

Think about whatever gets you there, but if you've got your husband changing his appearance to complete the fantasy -- when he doesn't know you two are roleplaying! -- that's a bit much.

I totally don't get the man-beard thing. Totally yucky.

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Anonymous wrote:I went through that with my daughter's teacher.

Same. I don't think this is unusual at all and I think it's a win for DH so who cares?

I certainly don't care. Whatever gets her excited.

-A husband (not PP's)

Anonymous wrote:DH here. I don't think about other women, but I do imagine that DW and I are in a totally different scenario, and that will bring me right to climax.

Another DH here, I don't fantasize about other women, either. I just imagine my DW is actually enthusiastic about sex. Granted, it's a bit of a stretch, but it's a pretty hot fantasy for me.

Anonymous wrote:I went through that with my daughter's teacher.

Same. I don't think this is unusual at all and I think it's a win for DH so who cares?

DH here. I don't think about other women, but I do imagine that DW and I are in a totally different scenario, and that will bring me right to climax.

I went through that with my daughter's teacher.

If my wife asked me to grow my beard because she likes it and then we started having more sex and better sex I would not give a F what her private thought process was.

It's definitely not abnormal but asking your husband to grow a beard because the construction guy has one is pushing the fantasy a little too far. Hopefully the construction project will soon end and you can get on with life. Whatever you do, don't ask to see the guys tools.

I'm sure I sound like a naive idiot but in a decade of marriage, I've never fantasized about another man during sex. And now after lots of hard work, finally, my sex life with DH has never been better and we do it several times a week and it's amazing every time, lately, I've been fantasizing about one of the construction men while I'm with my DH. I even told my DH not to shave his beard b/c the construction guy has huge, thick beard. I'm confused how when I wasn't having sex with my DH I never fantasized about anyone else, but now that it's happening regularly, I'm imagining being with the construction guy.