You need a 74 Monaco with push bumper

Seriously. Get a used state police car. Cop tires, cop engine, cop shocks. .

When you say "not a good driver", do you mean that your cars get banged up because you run into curbs/parking pillars/whatever, or you get into accidents with other cars? The latter is very serious: cars are great, but they can kill easily. Your main concern should be the safety of you, your family, and everyone else on the road.

From this perspective:

In what way are you a bad driver? Inattentive? Poor reflexes? Carelessness? Distraction?

Before you or someone else gets seriously hurt, I suggest
1. Driving lessons. If you have no idea what's causing you trouble, the instructor might have some ideas.

2. Improve your own driving practices by imposing rigid rules on yourself: full stops at stop signs, absolutely no speeding, absolutely no use of technology or maybe even radio while driving. Map out routes ahead of time if needed.

3. This last one might be the hardest: in order to maximize your ability to drive safely, you must impose and enforce rules for non-distracting car behavior on your spouse/partner and kids. Music and noise in the car is determined only by the driver. Obviously kids/others are not ever to mess with windows and interior lights.

As for cars: get one with latest safety and "driver assistance" features. And consider being an early adopter of self-driving cars!

Take meds for your ADHD?

Only half joking. My son has severe inattentive ADHD and will not be allowed to drive unless he’s medicated, which rules out early morning and late night driving.

Anonymous wrote:For the love of God people, please don't encourage OP to get an SUV or anything resembling a tank. That's the last thing we need on the road, bad drivers in tanks. She needs a reasonable family car with crumble zones (which most of them have), decent rollover protection and as many safety features as possible like cameras, lane departure warnings, collision detection warnings, etc (which many of the newer ones have).

Maybe a tesla if you could afford it.

And learn to drive.

Agreed.

Subaru's eyesight is a good system. I think Nissan has a pretty good one too.

Anonymous wrote:I try my best (don't speed or do reckless things) but just have never been a good driver. Now that we have small kids I just want safest car possible -- thoughts?

Uber

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree you should invest in driving lessons.

+1 and get your vision and reflexes checked.

+2 Maybe consider moving to a more walkable area before a tragedy happens.

Anonymous wrote:For the love of God people, please don't encourage OP to get an SUV or anything resembling a tank. That's the last thing we need on the road, bad drivers in tanks. She needs a reasonable family car with crumble zones (which most of them have), decent rollover protection and as many safety features as possible like cameras, lane departure warnings, collision detection warnings, etc (which many of the newer ones have).

Maybe a tesla if you could afford it.

And learn to drive.

Exactly! Get a Subaru and learn how to drive.

For the love of God people, please don't encourage OP to get an SUV or anything resembling a tank. That's the last thing we need on the road, bad drivers in tanks. She needs a reasonable family car with crumble zones (which most of them have), decent rollover protection and as many safety features as possible like cameras, lane departure warnings, collision detection warnings, etc (which many of the newer ones have).

Maybe a tesla if you could afford it.

And learn to drive.

Minivan or large SUV. What’s your budget.

Decommissioned police car. It’s a tank and everyone else will be more cautious around you because you’ll look like an undercover cop. They get terrible gas mileage, but that’s a small price to pay for your safety and that if everyone else on the road.

Anonymous wrote:I agree you should invest in driving lessons.

+1 and get your vision and reflexes checked.

I agree you should invest in driving lessons.

You should get something new with all of the newest safety features. And take some driving lessons.

I try my best (don't speed or do reckless things) but just have never been a good driver. Now that we have small kids I just want safest car possible -- thoughts?