*medical attention, not situation

Anonymous wrote:Is your desire for sex lower in general or is it just the guys you've dated that don't appeal to you? My first thought is that there might be a medical reason for your low sex drive. Might be worth checking out! Good luck!

Curious re your gender, age, marital status.

Some people have high or normal sex drives but have high standards about who they sleep with. Many women need to feel an emotional connection and be in a monogamous relationship in order to feel comfortable having sex with someone. That's normal. It doesn't require medical situation.

Op, hang in there. You will meet someone.

My type was always tall and dark haired. Turns out the guy I'm seeing is blond. Was NEVER interested in a blond before. It is odd but he's got it.

At least you can look around. I’m married and haven’t had sex in months.

OK, 5 million people in the area, so 2.5 million men, you've dated what, ten or twenty of them? Yeah, might as well give up, that makes total sense.

I have a type in my mind until I meet someone in real life I’m attracted to. Then the type goes out the window and and gettin’ bizzzyy. Yo yo.

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Anonymous wrote:IRL dating service. Provide photos of the type of men you find attractive. The human factor is really important. It’s why matchmaking works.

I don't get this.

Do people really limit themselves to one cookie cutter type? Doesn't personality trump everything? I'm basically all over the map when it comes to looks because personality, attitude, passion, etc. trump eye and hair color.

From what I’ve observed, most people have a strong physical type preference so it’s shocking when they deviate. Like Harry marrying Meghan after all of those blondes. It’s why people tell their relatives or friends that so-and-so is just your type. Doesn’t have to a complete cookie cutter, but if you prefer a certain facial shape or skin color, it can take a really amazing personality to overcome that. How many people do we meet have a really amazing personality? We tend to go for a certain personality type as well. Match the preferred look to the preferred personality and sexual attraction will ensue.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IRL dating service. Provide photos of the type of men you find attractive. The human factor is really important. It’s why matchmaking works.

I don't get this.

Do people really limit themselves to one cookie cutter type? Doesn't personality trump everything? I'm basically all over the map when it comes to looks because personality, attitude, passion, etc. trump eye and hair color.

+1. I “fall in love” with their passion so I have dated all kinds of men. The only ones I can’t bring myself to like, are the insecure pretty boys. I like men, elsepcially the ones that can’t wait to jump on me and show it. Unfortunately, all my girlfriends are not like me and need to have nice conversations, education standards, income levels, looks, blah blah blah and would date a resume with no passion if it met all the “requirements”.

Anonymous wrote:IRL dating service. Provide photos of the type of men you find attractive. The human factor is really important. It’s why matchmaking works.

I don't get this.

Do people really limit themselves to one cookie cutter type? Doesn't personality trump everything? I'm basically all over the map when it comes to looks because personality, attitude, passion, etc. trump eye and hair color.

You don’t want to have sex with them or you don’t want to date them at all?

Anonymous wrote:OP here, can you recommend a dating service?

An old article, but...
https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/dating-theres-an-app-or-20-for-that-but-have-you-considered-a-matchmaker/2013/12/26/56e3b65e-69c1-11e3-8b5b-a77187b716a3_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.810fabf24dba

Is your desire for sex lower in general or is it just the guys you've dated that don't appeal to you? My first thought is that there might be a medical reason for your low sex drive. Might be worth checking out! Good luck!

OP here, can you recommend a dating service?

IRL dating service. Provide photos of the type of men you find attractive. The human factor is really important. It’s why matchmaking works.

I've been dating a string of Match dates for 3 years now but met no one I'd want to have sex with. These guys are interested but I'm not. Should I just give up? Other ideas?