Anonymous wrote:But the bigger question here for me is who knows their SISTER's tennis shoe size? Aren't shoes a really personal buy?

I don't even know my husband's shoe size.

OK, I do know my sister's shoe size, but I'm a woman.

You're a woman, and what?

Why are people so focused on receiving “stuff”.

You sounded young in your post, but maybe you aren’t really a millennial.

But the bigger question here for me is who knows their SISTER's tennis shoe size? Aren't shoes a really personal buy?

I don't even know my husband's shoe size.

OK, I do know my sister's shoe size, but I'm a woman.

You might be reading into this too much. She might have been expressing approval of the present you were getting your sister. Like a thumbs up, good choice in shoes. But it depends on the tone she used.

Eh, no biggie. I'd just use it as information moving forward. Now you know her expectations; you can plan accordingly. What you did was fine for some (would have been fine for me) and not fine for others. If she's the sort of person to be mad about it for 6 months and never let you know; good to know now. Or, maybe she's just telling you for future reference.

Anonymous wrote:At 6 months, acknowledging the birthday in any way (dinner, drinks, etc) is fine. Kind of tacky she seemed to want a gift. I'm a non-gift person though (7 years! we take trips. ha) so that may cloud my vision.

I think we’re reading her desires into that statement.

Huh? So you didn’t forget her birthday. Kind of weird for an adult to expect a present for her birthday. How old are you two?

Anonymous wrote:You took her to dinner and got her flowers and she expected more after 6 months? Sounds high maintenance.

+1

Anonymous wrote:Ug, if she is still holding a grudge on that I'd say dump her.

Doesn’t sound grudgey at all. She didn’t criticize his efforts six months ago. It sounds like a good gift hint, OP.

Ug, if she is still holding a grudge on that I'd say dump her.

First of all you didn’t forget.

Second of all ... what did she get you? Was her birthday first or your’s?

At 6 months, acknowledging the birthday in any way (dinner, drinks, etc) is fine. Kind of tacky she seemed to want a gift. I'm a non-gift person though (7 years! we take trips. ha) so that may cloud my vision.

You are fine. If dinner was at a nice place and the flowers weren’t a $7 bouquet from Whole Foods, you’re good. A gift would have been nice, but at six months it’s still optional.

You took her to dinner and got her flowers and she expected more after 6 months? Sounds high maintenance.

I’ve been dating a girl for almost a year now, we became official last summer.

I was buying a pair of tennis shoes for my sister online for her birthday. I asked my girlfriend for her opinion on color, mentioning they were for my sisters birthday a month from now.

My girlfriend says very coolly: “the purple is nice. I would have liked those for my birthday, too”

I just realized now that I took her out for dinner and brought her flowers, but never bought her a present. How bad did I f up? Her birthday was in January.