Anonymous
Post 07/27/2018 13:26     Subject: respect
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How do you show respect for another women's husband or to signal to the woman/mom that you respect their marriage and are not a threat. How do you show this either verbally or nonverbally to the woman or the man in the course of conversation? I want to be crystal clear in my communication and make others feel comfortable. I'm having trouble with the woman code. TIA.




Why do you feel a need to do this? Are women generally worried about you pouncing on their husbands?

What I do, as a woman with a husband, is assume that everybody respects me and my marriage until proven otherwise. Now, if Larla put her hand on his crotch? I'd say something. Or if Larlo bent my husband over a table and took him from behind? I'd give Larlo and my husband a piece of my mind.

Now, if you went out of your way to assure me that you were not a threat to our marriage I'd start to wonder WTF was up and was going on between you and my husband.

How about just treating all people with respect?


Agreeing with the above. As a husband, DW has plenty of female friends, who now with the weather warmer, are dressing more attractively - I think this normal this time of year. When they are around me, I don't sense any interest, probably just looking at me to assess my "husbandness." Me, on the other hand, just passing fancy that women like to be and feel attractive. But no one will ever break the trust and respect of our marriage and collective friendship.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2018 13:23     Subject: respect
As a less-than-beautiful wife married to a relatively-handsome man, I can't say I've ever felt threatened by another woman. I have never seen odd behavior.

But it's really grounded in how I feel about my own marriage and my husband himself. If I somehow felt insecure there, then maybe another woman would make me feel weird. But there's really nothing you can do about how a wife feels.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2018 13:21     Subject: Re:respect
Umm ... I don't flirt with anyone other than my husband?
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2018 13:20     Subject: respect
Anonymous wrote:I didn't know that there was a woman code. In general, you show respect for people by showing them respect...

-a lifelong woman person[b]


I love you.
Anonymous
Post 07/27/2018 13:16     Subject: respect
Anonymous wrote:How do you show respect for another women's husband or to signal to the woman/mom that you respect their marriage and are not a threat. How do you show this either verbally or nonverbally to the woman or the man in the course of conversation? I want to be crystal clear in my communication and make others feel comfortable. I'm having trouble with the woman code. TIA.




Why do you feel a need to do this? Are women generally worried about you pouncing on their husbands?

What I do, as a woman with a husband, is assume that everybody respects me and my marriage until proven otherwise. Now, if Larla put her hand on his crotch? I'd say something. Or if Larlo bent my husband over a table and took him from behind? I'd give Larlo and my husband a piece of my mind.

Now, if you went out of your way to assure me that you were not a threat to our marriage I'd start to wonder WTF was up and was going on between you and my husband.

How about just treating all people with respect?
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 21:44     Subject: respect
Anonymous wrote:How do you show respect for another women's husband or to signal to the woman/mom that you respect their marriage and are not a threat. How do you show this either verbally or nonverbally to the woman or the man in the course of conversation? I want to be crystal clear in my communication and make others feel comfortable. I'm having trouble with the woman code. TIA.




don't be a flirt or dress with your boobs out.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 19:06     Subject: Re:respect
I'm very happy in my marriage and I think most people know it. The odds of me being a threat given I'm happy are slim to none. If I were divorced or single it might be a different story.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 18:14     Subject: respect
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nothing you can do about another woman’s insecurity.


I don't think it's insecurity per say. I think it's sort of an instinctual response whether for 1 second or full blown paranoia.


When the woman is attractive and younger.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 18:14     Subject: respect
Anonymous wrote:Nothing you can do about another woman’s insecurity.


+1000

I text my neighbor and her husband. Prob the husband more than her. My husband texts my best friend frequently, and I text her husband a lot too. We are all adults here. We are clearly all secure because it is not an issue at all, for any of us.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 18:12     Subject: respect
Anonymous wrote:Nothing you can do about another woman’s insecurity.


I don't think it's insecurity per say. I think it's sort of an instinctual response whether for 1 second or full blown paranoia.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 18:07     Subject: respect
A single mom, I avoid other people's husbands like the plague. Both because some women are hyper paranoid and some men are dogs. It's just not worth the drama.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 18:07     Subject: respect
Nothing you can do about another woman’s insecurity.
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 18:03     Subject: respect
I didn't know that there was a woman code. In general, you show respect for people by showing them respect...

-a lifelong woman person
Anonymous
Post 07/26/2018 17:52     Subject: respect
How do you show respect for another women's husband or to signal to the woman/mom that you respect their marriage and are not a threat. How do you show this either verbally or nonverbally to the woman or the man in the course of conversation? I want to be crystal clear in my communication and make others feel comfortable. I'm having trouble with the woman code. TIA.