Can you go in their house and take his heirlooms for his children?

All my assets are in a trust and instructions are that all those assets only go to children from my marriage. Nobody outside of my marriage can get to the money... I did this because there are women like your mom.

No advice, OP, but just sorry to hear that this happened.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they will contest it on undue influence. Sounds shady.

Sounds very shady. I doubt the trustee or whomever will release any assets or monies quickly. Several red flags.

OP - stay out of this, your mother did a doozy here. yuck.

I am not getting into it. Just sad for his sons.

Anonymous wrote:Yikes. Your mom is an asshole.

I agree.

Anonymous wrote:They probably don't. But if I were you, I'd what I could to make it right eventually. Meaning, I'd give up any inheritance you eventually get from your mother and find a way to give it to this man's grown kids or grandchildren. This may be 20 years down the line, but I still think it'd be the honorable thing to do.

Obviously don't tell anyone this is your plan, or your mother will write you out of the will. Just do it quietly at some point in the future and let them know you are just making a small attempt to right a long ago wrong.

I actually do plan on doing something like that if I get an inheritance. Mother is a narcissist and currently the sibling who attended the wedding is the “golden child” and might be the only heir. My brother and I are low contact due to Mother’s continued abuse over the years. When our Dad passed away I wrote off receiving any inheritance at that time.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe they will contest it on undue influence. Sounds shady.

Sounds very shady. I doubt the trustee or whomever will release any assets or monies quickly. Several red flags.

OP - stay out of this, your mother did a doozy here. yuck.

Yikes. Your mom is an asshole.

Is there a way you can reach out to them to see if there is anything of their mom or dad's that they really want, and try to get it for them before she sells it?

Maybe they will contest it on undue influence. Sounds shady.

They probably don't. But if I were you, I'd what I could to make it right eventually. Meaning, I'd give up any inheritance you eventually get from your mother and find a way to give it to this man's grown kids or grandchildren. This may be 20 years down the line, but I still think it'd be the honorable thing to do.

Obviously don't tell anyone this is your plan, or your mother will write you out of the will. Just do it quietly at some point in the future and let them know you are just making a small attempt to right a long ago wrong.

Children are adults. I guess it just seems awful that they get nothing.

Was he able to make his own decisions? Children are adults?
If so, why would they have legal recourse?

They were married and live in Virginia.

And he passed away over the weekend. They married in November (both are widows) and in December she had him make out his will to her giving her 100%. He has three sons and his first wife passed away 8 years ago. I was wondering if his sons had grounds to contest the will. The wedding was quick, in fact none of his kids and only one of my siblings attended. They knew each other for about six months before getting married upon her insistence. It’s pretty terrible. I am disappointed in my Mom’s behavior As she is now talking about selling all of her deceased husband’s assets and moving on.
Do they have legal recourse?