Exercise helps with mood about everything.

Anonymous wrote:Me too. And I am 35 FFS. He always showed less interest in sex than I, and he was never a good lover, but at this point I’d be fine with any sex even the bad sea we used to have.

Why on earth did you marry him?

Anonymous wrote:Before the Low T and porn addiction posters arrive, let me ask - are you emotionally connected? Do you share laughs? Do you make him feel like he matters to you?

And also (I can feel the heat of the flames already), do you take care of yourself?

This is all by way of saying that, believe it or not, not all men are unfeeling, sex-crazed machines, who'll f*ck anything that moves.

Yes, to all of the above. He just isn't interested.

I've considered gay and that might be possible. I don't think he's into porn.

So I don't know....

Anonymous wrote:I used to think I had low drive, but the fact of the matter is? It became boooooring with one partner, just like eating the same thing over and over again.

When I had a "change" so to speak, it improved dramatically.

Honestly, I don't understand how most people stay active with one partner and not get bored.

First, you really need an emotional connection and be physically attractive to each other. Second, you don't get bored when you continually change things up in terms of positions and location. Variety is the spice of life and that doesn't require different partners. I've been married 32 years to my DW and while we are far from being kinky we are pretty adventurous.

Anonymous wrote:Is there ever a recovery from it? Husband has no interest in sex and it has been years.

I'm lonely.

he needs to get his testerone tested. My DH has very low T, two weeks of cream was a turnaround

Anonymous wrote:I used to think I had low drive, but the fact of the matter is? It became boooooring with one partner, just like eating the same thing over and over again.

When I had a "change" so to speak, it improved dramatically.

Honestly, I don't understand how most people stay active with one partner and not get bored.

Everybody gets bored with one partner: both men and women experience this equally. Are you female or male? Because you sound totally normal for a female. Most wives stop wanting sex soon after marriage, yet are instantly aroused by a new/exciting guy. But if you are a male, then I would say you DO have low drive because typical man's libido is strong enough to overcome boredom. I still want sex with my "boring old wife" despite the fact she's gained a bunch of weight and I am no longer even physically attracted.

OP, has he always been that way? If so, then it is unfortunate that you decided to marry a man with naturally low drive. But if his interest was once normal, then like others have said get the Testosterone levels checked. Second how is his lifestyle? Active healthy fit men who exercise regularly have more drive than overweight sedentary men.

I used to think I had low drive, but the fact of the matter is? It became boooooring with one partner, just like eating the same thing over and over again.

When I had a "change" so to speak, it improved dramatically.

Honestly, I don't understand how most people stay active with one partner and not get bored.

Anonymous wrote:Before the Low T and porn addiction posters arrive, let me ask - are you emotionally connected? Do you share laughs? Do you make him feel like he matters to you?

And also (I can feel the heat of the flames already), do you take care of yourself?

This is all by way of saying that, believe it or not, not all men are unfeeling, sex-crazed machines, who'll f*ck anything that moves.

Man here, and it's clear that you aren't a man. While of course not all men are sex machines, the vast majority of men have a natural sex drive that needs no outside actor to turn it on. It isn't normal to never want sex so there is either a medical or psychological issue.

ED issues? Could be testicular cancer. My DH got it at 30. (He's ok now, 57).

Anonymous wrote:Before the Low T and porn addiction posters arrive, let me ask - are you emotionally connected? Do you share laughs? Do you make him feel like he matters to you?

And also (I can feel the heat of the flames already), do you take care of yourself?

This is all by way of saying that, believe it or not, not all men are unfeeling, sex-crazed machines, who'll f*ck anything that moves.

I don’t disagree with the pp, but also,
See if there is a medical issue. See a urologist and an endocrinologist and even check his heart.

Before the Low T and porn addiction posters arrive, let me ask - are you emotionally connected? Do you share laughs? Do you make him feel like he matters to you?

And also (I can feel the heat of the flames already), do you take care of yourself?

This is all by way of saying that, believe it or not, not all men are unfeeling, sex-crazed machines, who'll f*ck anything that moves.

Yes. It is called Testosterone Replacement Therapy.

I don't want to look outside my marriage but I can't take the rejection either.

Me too. And I am 35 FFS. He always showed less interest in sex than I, and he was never a good lover, but at this point I’d be fine with any sex even the bad sea we used to have.

Is there ever a recovery from it? Husband has no interest in sex and it has been years.

I'm lonely.