Anonymous wrote:I’m only 5 ‘ 7” so not really tall. I’ve dated guys my height or maybe just an inch or two taller and really tall guys 6’4” or 6’5” types. This current guy is not even 5 feet. He’s a very sweet guy and I love his personality even if it’s a bit over the top some times in a good way. I’m just stuck on his height . I feel bad about that. I’m not unattractive to him but I’m not attracted at the same time. He’s definitely interested. Not sure what to say

OP, if he doesn’t work for, he doesn’t work for you.

I justbthing yiu also need to consider ever saying “there are no good guys out there” (not sure you do, but whatever), when they ARE good guys, they just don’t fit your physical mold.

So, none of the tall guys have worked out for whatever reason. Now you’re throwing this guy back in the pond. What makes yiu such a catch?

Do yourself both a favor - don't date him. He will pick up on your insecurity, and may him make uncomfortable, if he is not already sensitive to the fact that he's shorter than you.

I am 5 ft 2 and would not date a guy shorter than me. I wouldn’t want my children to end up short. No thanks, pass

Physical traits are a real reason. It's like some men won't date a woman over a certain weight. Those are real reasons.

They might be shallow...

but they are real.

Being attracted to another is an exciting thing and an important part of courtship. It's not "shallow..."

Anonymous wrote:Guy here. I wouldn't date someone I'm not attracted to and neither should you. Agree it's nothing to feel bad about.

This.

That said, the best sex I ever had (by far) was with the only guy I dated who was shorter than me, and who basically just kept pursuing me in incredibly skilled and charming ways until I agreed to date him. It was a short relationship, kept going only because of his relentlessness and tremendously fun pursuit. I never did manage to feel significantly attracted to him but I swear his height made him such an over achiever that it really was a joy in a lot of ways.

So there may be a silver lining...

seriously, if you want to have a family and a loving husband remember that a tall man is not necessarly a great man. Source: I married a guy shorter than me and I would never exchange him for a random basketball player..

Guy here. I wouldn't date someone I'm not attracted to and neither should you. Agree it's nothing to feel bad about.

I dated a guy several inches shorter than me but he was stocky so still looked manly if that makes sense.

If you are attracted to everything else dont let his height deter you. If you are not attracted to him because of this then let him go and find someone who will appreciate his other qualities.

Is it m-m-m-my height?? Ummmm, no...

Anonymous wrote:Keep getting to know him. Seriously, sometimes you need to know someone before you can start to see past the physical things that jump out and bother you at first. I remember thinking my DH had sort of weird upper lip when we started dating. Now I can't even remember what I was looking at because it's been 15 years and it's just his face.

Obviously height is not something that will disappear, but you may get to a point where you just don't care. Or not. But at least get to the point where you are turning him down for a real reason and not because he's short.

That doesn't make any sense. Physical traits are a real reason. It's like some men won't date a woman over a certain weight. Those are real reasons. They might be shallow...but they are real.

Personal preference, I'd never date a man shorter than I am. It's not something to feel bad about.

Keep getting to know him. Seriously, sometimes you need to know someone before you can start to see past the physical things that jump out and bother you at first. I remember thinking my DH had sort of weird upper lip when we started dating. Now I can't even remember what I was looking at because it's been 15 years and it's just his face.

Obviously height is not something that will disappear, but you may get to a point where you just don't care. Or not. But at least get to the point where you are turning him down for a real reason and not because he's short.

Men don’t stress over not dating tall women. It’s okay.

I am 5' and wouldn't date a guy who is 5' either. Why would you question whether to date a guy whom you are not attracted to, irrespective of height?

I’m only 5 ‘ 7” so not really tall. I’ve dated guys my height or maybe just an inch or two taller and really tall guys 6’4” or 6’5” types. This current guy is not even 5 feet. He’s a very sweet guy and I love his personality even if it’s a bit over the top some times in a good way. I’m just stuck on his height . I feel bad about that. I’m not unattractive to him but I’m not attracted at the same time. He’s definitely interested. Not sure what to say