Anonymous
Post 07/11/2018 00:30     Subject: Re:I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
My dad and my husband coached. They never were alone with players. Ever. It takes one accusation. They never were alone with a kid.

I never have my kids Ali e with a Coach. When they have 1 in 1 training - I drive them to and fro and I’m in the vicinity.

No overnights with coaches or residential camps.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 23:59     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
The Tale on HBO starring Laura Dern is about this subject.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 21:41     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
I was never groomed but I had coaches that crossed the line by hugging me, touching my butt, and accidentally walking into the dressing room as we changed.

When we were 16, there were some make-outs between my coaches (over 30 yr old me ) and teammates.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 21:18     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
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Anonymous wrote:That is why I'm always amazed at how quickly people trust coaches and allow their kids to carpool without really getting to know people, etc.


Did you read the article? The coach spent three years grooming her and ingratiating himself with her family. He molested her in the car in the presence of her family.


Yes, and it makes me wonder how the parents didn't notice any of it. I would not be ok with a coach and child sharing a blanket in my car.


So you'd constantly be turning around from the front seat for four hours riding home? Or holding open a mirror to look behind you for four hours straight?


There is absolutely no reason for the coach to be in the car. Coaches who are predators get to the parents as well. They build the trust their first so the parents are also telling the kid isn't Coach Bob wonderful, he is so great etc.

Coaches should never give kids a ride and parents should give coaches rides.


I’m not going to click the link because it looks odd, but I don’t agree that a coach cannot be giving rides appropriately. I’m a former teacher and coach and often gave kids rides to their home or Metro, or even along with me on an errand. I don’t know that this is still commonly done with all the abuse and molestation reports coming out seems like weekly, but this was not unusual in the communities I taught in. Another teacher I know gave students his cell phone number so they could text him about homework, soccer practice, etc.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 20:44     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
Anonymous wrote:this is old news and is boring, move on to something else.


Child abuse is boring. Got it.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 20:40     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
this is old news and is boring, move on to something else.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 15:30     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:That is why I'm always amazed at how quickly people trust coaches and allow their kids to carpool without really getting to know people, etc.


Did you read the article? The coach spent three years grooming her and ingratiating himself with her family. He molested her in the car in the presence of her family.


Yes, and it makes me wonder how the parents didn't notice any of it. I would not be ok with a coach and child sharing a blanket in my car.


So you'd constantly be turning around from the front seat for four hours riding home? Or holding open a mirror to look behind you for four hours straight?


There is absolutely no reason for the coach to be in the car. Coaches who are predators get to the parents as well. They build the trust their first so the parents are also telling the kid isn't Coach Bob wonderful, he is so great etc.

Coaches should never give kids a ride and parents should give coaches rides.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 15:14     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
Look at USA gymnastics...this kind of thing isn't uncommon, especially at the elite levels where kids go away to train.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 15:08     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is why I'm always amazed at how quickly people trust coaches and allow their kids to carpool without really getting to know people, etc.


Did you read the article? The coach spent three years grooming her and ingratiating himself with her family. He molested her in the car in the presence of her family.


Yes, and it makes me wonder how the parents didn't notice any of it. I would not be ok with a coach and child sharing a blanket in my car.


So you'd constantly be turning around from the front seat for four hours riding home? Or holding open a mirror to look behind you for four hours straight?
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 15:07     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
One of the founders of NCAP swim club(they changed the name after he got caught) did this as well.

https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/prominent-swim-coach-rick-curl-charged-with-child-abuse

Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 15:02     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That is why I'm always amazed at how quickly people trust coaches and allow their kids to carpool without really getting to know people, etc.


Did you read the article? The coach spent three years grooming her and ingratiating himself with her family. He molested her in the car in the presence of her family.


Yes, and it makes me wonder how the parents didn't notice any of it. I would not be ok with a coach and child sharing a blanket in my car.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 14:56     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
Anonymous wrote:That is why I'm always amazed at how quickly people trust coaches and allow their kids to carpool without really getting to know people, etc.


Did you read the article? The coach spent three years grooming her and ingratiating himself with her family. He molested her in the car in the presence of her family.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 14:46     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
Both my brother and I were intensely involved in sports - tennis and gymnastics. Both of us were driven home by coaches, taken to dinner by coaches, and lived and died by the feedback of our coaches.

The only bad thing my brother's coach did was not tell our parents when he got into a car accident with my brother in the car.

The only bad thing my coach did was teach me curse words I hadn't yet learned from kids at school.

Yay to all the great coaches who take their hero-worship honorably.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 14:28     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
That is why I'm always amazed at how quickly people trust coaches and allow their kids to carpool without really getting to know people, etc.
Anonymous
Post 07/10/2018 14:17     Subject: I came across this great article by a professional soccer player about her years of abuse
It is an amazing read and something every parent should read about trust with coaches, perhaps teachers, clergy, anyone with power over a child that we as parents thinks is ok.

https://ckelly919.wixsite.com/website-1/single-post/2018/07/09/Over-and-Over-again