Anonymous wrote:If you receive child support and do not have it administered by the state (meaning that he pays you directly) Set it up through the state so that they can pursue it on your behalf should he fall behind. If he's behind by more than $2500 in CS, then the gov't will flag his passport so he can't travel overseas until the arrears is paid.

This. You need to know what will happen if he does, in fact, stop with the child support. He needs to know what will happen. Child support is a right that your children need and have. He can skip out of the country, but he can't skip out on that. If he does, there are consequences.

I don't understand why everyone is recommending you file for a change in custody now. It sounds like you already have an order so he couldn't remove the kids if he wanted to. Seems like you'd get a much more favorable outcome if you waited a few months and then tried to modify custody due to his non-involvement.

If you receive child support and do not have it administered by the state (meaning that he pays you directly) Set it up through the state so that they can pursue it on your behalf should he fall behind. If he's behind by more than $2500 in CS, then the gov't will flag his passport so he can't travel overseas until the arrears is paid.

Anonymous wrote:Hide their passports, or keep them on you, just in case.

+1

Anonymous wrote:


If he told you I hardly think he is running off with the kids. Next week is July 4th and perhaps he is fed up and wants to go home.
Hard to say without knowing the background to your story

This.

Hopefully you have what he told you in writing. Get a lawyer immediately. File for an emergency change of custody. Worry about CS later if need be.

If he told you I hardly think he is running off with the kids. Next week is July 4th and perhaps he is fed up and wants to go home.
Hard to say without knowing the background to your story

Hide their passports, or keep them on you, just in case.

File emergency custody ASAP and hopefully get the children’s passports on hold or something so they can’t leave the country just in case he tries

Anonymous wrote:I would get a lawyer and try to modify the custody agreement. If he says he's moving to an undisclosed foreign location, he shouldn't have any kind of custody. In the meanwhile, keep your kids close and make sure they know not to go with dad if he shows up: you may think he's uninterested but people doing bizarre things like this can be unstable.

I think it's odd that he told you his plans though. Maybe he's actually planning to go to ground in this country and hope you won't look for him.

Listen to this post and get custody modified ASAP--if ex hasn't already run away before the lawyers and court can get it done. If he's flatly refusing to give out any information about how to reach him, yet he has joint custody, it sounds like you have a good case for getting 100 percent custody. What has he said about custody while he's gone, OP? Nothing? Is he really indicating this is a permanent move? It's not some very poorly worded idea of a vacation, possibly, and he actually expects to be back--?

And if he vanishes with no further contact, then after a certain amount of time there would be a case for claiming parental abandonment and termination of his parental rights. Something to keep in mind if he goes and disappears. You won't want him popping back up years from now claiming he wants joint custody back.

I would get a lawyer and try to modify the custody agreement. If he says he's moving to an undisclosed foreign location, he shouldn't have any kind of custody. In the meanwhile, keep your kids close and make sure they know not to go with dad if he shows up: you may think he's uninterested but people doing bizarre things like this can be unstable.

I think it's odd that he told you his plans though. Maybe he's actually planning to go to ground in this country and hope you won't look for him.

I didn't use an attorney for the divorce but I will call a friend who is a former judge. He is not working for anyone at the moment. Quit his job recently and made plans to leave for a cheap country where he can live off his savings for a while.
He dislikes the kids so I am not worried about his taking them. Especially since I have them with me, in another state.

Call your attorney immediately. And you better make damn
sure he’s not going to try and take your child with him. Will he still be working with an American company (assuming he was to begin with)? Is so, I wonder if you could have his
wages garished.

Call your attorney immediately. And you better make damn
sure he’s not going to try and take your child with him.

Wow, sorry. I have no advice other than call your lawyer.

Ex husband is leaving the country and will not give more information than the continent he will be on. No return date, no number if there is an emergency, nothing. We have joint legal custody. Is there any recourse? He sprung this on me today and is leaving sometime next week. I believe this is so he can avoid child support.