I would have freaked if my mom who always called suddenly didn't. I would be convinced she was dead.

I'd call the ex back and say you are willing to not call for the week, but first There needs to be one call to explain the change from the usual plan.

Anonymous wrote:You MIL is out of line to expect her grandchild have no contact with her MOTHER for a week. That’s outrageous and I’d shit that down now or no more can visits with grandma.

+1

You MIL is out of line to expect her grandchild have no contact with her MOTHER for a week. That’s outrageous and I’d shit that down now or no more can visits with grandma.

Totally reasonable to call your kid before bedtime to ask how the day was and say goodnight. ExDH and I NEVER said no to our kids talking to either of us.

It sounds like Grandma is saying "Maybe if Larla doesn't hear from her mom, Larla will forget all about her and then like me better!" That's ridiculous.

Sounds like he's giving you a polite heads up that no one is going to answer the calls you make when she is with ex-MIL

Anonymous wrote:Is she babysitting overnight? Like the child is visiting grandma for a week?

If she's just with Grandma for the day, I'd wait and call when she's back at Dad's. But if your kid is away from you overnight, it's entirely reasonable to call them to say goodnight. I would tell her that you're sorry it's disruptive, but that you feel that it's important for her to touch base with both her parents regularly.

Yes, she’s staying overnight for the week.

Anonymous wrote:Do you let him call nightly?

Yes I do.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s his time, not yours. He makes the rules during that time.

Disagree. He can't leave the child with a 3rd party and then dictate she not contact the child. It's terrible for the child.

Yes he can when it’s his time.

Is she babysitting overnight? Like the child is visiting grandma for a week?

If she's just with Grandma for the day, I'd wait and call when she's back at Dad's. But if your kid is away from you overnight, it's entirely reasonable to call them to say goodnight. I would tell her that you're sorry it's disruptive, but that you feel that it's important for her to touch base with both her parents regularly.

I absolutely agree with him. I’m sorry and I know it sucks. I am a mom of two children, 12 and 10. We got divorced when they were three and nine months old. When it is his time/his families time. You have to back off. I know from my children if I were to call or Skype it makes them very upset and on able to enjoy their time with his family

Anonymous wrote:It’s his time, not yours. He makes the rules during that time.

Disagree. He can't leave the child with a 3rd party and then dictate she not contact the child. It's terrible for the child.

Do you let him call nightly?

No, that's a completely inappropiate thing for them to ask. Shut it down.

It’s his time, not yours. He makes the rules during that time.

I have a seven year old who doesn’t start camp until next week. Last week, my aunt babysat her, this week my ex’s mom is babysitting. I called last night to see how DD’s day is going and to say goodnight. This is something I do when she’s with my aunt or even her dad. He calls when she’s with me. Today, my ex called me and said his mom doesn’t want me calling her while DD is visiting. She thinks it’s getting in the way of her bonding time with DD. I never imagined it would be a problem to call my own child! I’m not calling to bother her, I just call more so to say goodnight. Am I missing something? Am I wrong for this?