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Anonymous wrote:Man here - if your husband doesn't seem bent out of shape then he likely is fine. As a member of the male species I find it difficult to fake it - I'm happy or I'm not and I'd let you know. If he seems to have moved on then he has moved on and I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. One PP mentioned sex for 25 days (one for every year) which I fully support but it might kill the old guy!

but that would be worth dying for if it actually came to pass !!! But I totally support it though

I love my DH but sex 25 nights in a row would be like the movie Groundhog Day. Sex with 25 different men over 25 days might be very interesting but that would not be a nice way to celebrate an anniversary!

Anonymous wrote:Man here - if your husband doesn't seem bent out of shape then he likely is fine. As a member of the male species I find it difficult to fake it - I'm happy or I'm not and I'd let you know. If he seems to have moved on then he has moved on and I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. One PP mentioned sex for 25 days (one for every year) which I fully support but it might kill the old guy!

but that would be worth dying for if it actually came to pass !!! But I totally support it though

And that's why I don't celebrate anything. Too much stress and everybody takes what should be a fun time and makes it a pain.

Man here - if your husband doesn't seem bent out of shape then he likely is fine. As a member of the male species I find it difficult to fake it - I'm happy or I'm not and I'd let you know. If he seems to have moved on then he has moved on and I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. One PP mentioned sex for 25 days (one for every year) which I fully support but it might kill the old guy!

The gift doesn't have to be about the anniversary. It can be about appreciating him and wanting to let him know. What is he really into? Concert? Team? Fishing? Beer? Beach?

You have to know of something he's always wanted, whether it be a thing or a trip. Plan it or purchase it and surprise him with it.

Anonymous wrote:It's never too late to get him a nice gift.

I disagree as it's just a reminder that OP forgot. I'd simply be very nice to him for the next 25 years! My DH would be fine with some big time loving.

It's never too late to get him a nice gift.

I wouldn't worry about it. We recently had our 20th and my DH didn't even get me a card and he had a business trip so no dinner or anything else. What happened to romance? I'd love to be married to someone like your DH. If all I had given him was a card I'd do my best to give him the best night in bed he ever had! If that's what you did then you are home free.

Keep in mind that big anniversaries are known for their "metal" such as bronze, silver, gold and diamond! That sounds like jewelry to me! Since most men don't wear jewelry I think you are in the clear. That being said I'm sure my DH would periodically joke about it which I would not find very funny. Give him a few more nights of fun sex this week and I'm sure you will be off the hook.

I would not dwell on it. But I also would admit you feel guilty to him. If it was my DH, he would not want me to feel guilty because the whole reason he got the bling gift was to make me HAPPY. Not to make me feel bad.

Also, if I get my DH a gift, and I know it's out of the ordinary (we've taken the stance of not really buying much for each other) I tell him I know he didn't get me anything and IT'S OK. That's part of my gift! Relieving him of the pressure to think up something just to check the box and he honestly appreciates it. Yes, it's not romantic, but I'd rather have a solid, happy marriage than a romantic one.

25 days straight of fun sex would probably make up for it.

Don’t dwell on it... anniversaries are a bigger deals for the women. He probably is perfectly happy with the card and activities. In my experience... no special day required to show appreciation.

And... he now has a “get out of jail for free”card.

I think 25th needs a vacation to celebrate, but it can be taken anytime during the year. What about that? I'd assume your kids are old enough to be left alone.

Its not too late.

My DH and I just celebrated our 25th anniversary. Typically we just exchange cards, have a romantic dinner followed by some fun sex. This year he bought me a stunning necklace that must have cost a fortune and all I got him was a card. When I said all we usually do is exchange cards he said he felt that the 25th was pretty special. Now I'm feeling guilty that I didn't recognize that the 25th anniversary is very special and he did. When my DD's saw the necklace they both asked "what did you get Dad" and when I said "a card" they both looked at be in stunned silence. We did have a wonderful dinner and fun sex but I can't help think that I blew it by not realizing that 25 years is a special milestone. The good news is that my DH doesn't seem bent out of shape or at least he hides it well.