Anonymous wrote:Sure, but not quite in the same way. I dont wonder about her husband’s cheapness, but I don’t like the look of a tiny chip of a gemstone solitaire. So I guess that means I’m judging their taste. But I know plenty of people judge my taste and wouldn’t consider wearing my “dated” yellow gold rings.

Somebody can do a spin off thread — what does your engagement ring say about you?

I do agree that a tiny sliver of a diamond looks worse than if they just used a different stone. I know several women who used a sapphire as their main stone with little diamond baguettes on the side. It's a beautiful look and you can get a big precious gemstone for much less.

Sure, but not quite in the same way. I dont wonder about her husband’s cheapness, but I don’t like the look of a tiny chip of a gemstone solitaire. So I guess that means I’m judging their taste. But I know plenty of people judge my taste and wouldn’t consider wearing my “dated” yellow gold rings.

Somebody can do a spin off thread — what does your engagement ring say about you?

No, I have no idea of the circumstances - married young, living beyond their means, wearing a family heirloom. Who cares? I do judge you for being shallow though so there is that.

Nope. I don't even notice if they're wearing one or not.

Yes, the larger the stone, the more insecure the husband is.

I judge women who show off huge stones. So much money wasted on a status symbol.

I know I was judged on the ring from my first marriage because it was a non-traditional style but a family heirloom. It was actually a greater TCW than my engagement ring from my second marriage, but that one was a classic diamond solitaire.

I didn’t care either time.

Anonymous wrote:I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.

Yikes, you’re really dumb.

Literally could not care less about other women's engagement rings. Well, if they are friends, I'm happy if their rings make them happy.

I do judge their levels of kindness, morality, and whether they are interesting and fun people, but that's another thread.

Seriously?! Why would anyone even think of judging someone's degree of love for their spouse on the basis of an engagement ring?

No, not on perceived expense. Sometimes I think they're ugly, as jewelry (I know someone with a heart-shaped solitaire, which I just hate on principle) but I DGAF about how much a guy spends on a ring.

And one of the nicest, most "OMG HE MUST BE RICH" rings I ever saw was on a woman who later confided it was CZ, because she wanted a bigger rock but he didn't want to spend that much. She was more into the presentation than the value. And this was in the NYC finance world, which is just to say: if you think you can tell a person's wealth/devotion by a ring, you might just be the easy mark they were trying to fool.

No. Size of diamond has more to do with how old the groom was at engagement. The big diamonds are usually from the geriatrics.

Honestly, I do too. But I know I get judged by my ring which looks to be about 2 carats set in platinum with a big center stone. Except it's not as big as it looks--it's just a really good setting. And my DH didn't pay full price for it because my godfather is a jeweler so he got it for cost. So all of the judging is inaccurate.

Define tiny. When I was in my 20s, women were happy to have a 3/4 carat stone. I love my 1 carat stone. These days, women think that's tiny and insist on these obnoxiously huge 2 and 3 carat stones.

I do.

Sometimes when I see a woman with a tiny diamond I wonder how cheap her husband must be to not bother to get her something nicer.

The larger the diamond the more I think her husband wanted to impress her/ show his love. Also that he’s rich.