Thank you for sharing your concerns with us. I am sorry for what you are going through. No one is perfect so no marriage is perfect. As spouses, we should allow each other to address our concerns. But also, we should try to be direct and not to over exaggerate our feelings. Have you thought that now is the moment that you both can live the vows of marriage? In good times and bad times. In health and sickness? Sometimes, it can happen that spouses can annoy each other. But do not feel discourage. Even in the darkest moments in our lives there’s always hope. Please, let me tell you that you’re not alone Perhaps it is possible to encourage that your spouse can seek counseling or therapy to help try to overcome and conquer what is causing the anxiety. Counseling or therapy can be helpful to work through things like this. You and your husband are valuable and worth of fighting for. Therapy can help your husband to discover the roots of his anxiety and stress. This list-ly is extremely important for you are going through: https://list.ly/list/1CE4-looking-up-from-the-stubborn-darkness. Sending you hugs. I will keep you in my prayers, my friend.

Anonymous wrote:I am the one with anxiety. I dont think I dump it on my spouse but I expect her to understand my triggers and work with them a bit.
A lot of stress is overwhelming so sometimes I just need a minute to myself and a hug can go a long way too. I am good now about verbalizing this so she knows what I need, rather than making the situation worse.

Oh, well, slightly different answer then.

I don't feel like my spouse dumps on me, but it did take some time for my husband and I to figure out what caused anxiety in each other, and figure out how to work with that. Mostly, however in my case, I just don't let his anxiety rattle me because, I think, and I'm a little ashamed to say, I don't care. It is simply part of his personality. His anxiety, his problem.

I'm not going to take on or accept his anxiety, because there is nothing I can do to alleviate it. He can actually dump all he wants ... I just take it another step further and dump it myself.

I am the one with anxiety. I dont think I dump it on my spouse but I expect her to understand my triggers and work with them a bit.
A lot of stress is overwhelming so sometimes I just need a minute to myself and a hug can go a long way too. I am good now about verbalizing this so she knows what I need, rather than making the situation worse.

Anonymous wrote:Do you ever feel like your spouse dumps their anxiety on you? That you have to adjust your life to minimize their anxiety? Then they dump their stress on you?

Accept it and let it go, OP. Don't adjust your life to minimize their anxiety. Help them get help so they can manage their own anxiety.

Do you ever feel like your spouse dumps their anxiety on you? That you have to adjust your life to minimize their anxiety? Then they dump their stress on you?