BTDT, I recommend sharing the full report with them. That way they can do their best to accommodate and help her if they can/want to. If they don't want to do anything, they won't. You'll see that over time if they school is a good fit or not. Usually with milder cases of ADHD, medication is effective and the school can't help with that.

Curious why you got testing if she’s not struggling in school?

Her school doesn’t do much testing. We’ve been planning for untuned testing but will discuss the other things you suggest too. They are big on organization which has been helpful for her.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd share the report and work with school on putting the recommended supports in place. As PP said, if the school won't work with you, you don't want to be there. Most private schools will want to keep a bright student even with ADHD.

Right, this is what I think. He’s worried about the potential discrepancy between her intelligence and her inattention being a red flag and then not wanting to work with her. That goes against most of what I’ve seen of their philosophy- it’s a rigorous school but they welcome any extra help for kids and cherish individual learning - they just don’t necessarily suggest or proactively give the help without parent involvement.

The discrepancy between potential and performance is the definition of learning disabilities/issues.
If she has significant discrepancies, working with her at home really won't make up for the issues at school. It's a great idea to keep her organized and focused for homework but learning at school won't be helped by a tutor. She will likely need supports in place at school (e.g. more time on tests, visual cues, outlines, organizers, breaks, etc) to be able to succeed.

Thanks. I believe that our dd’s teachers and the head of her division will receive the reports. They won’t share them with anyone else without our permission. We know one of the learning specialists (reading), and will likely share with her as well. The tutor we’ve been working with is someone who used to work at the school and knows a lot about what they expect, and everyone at the school agrees it’s a good person to use. Part of the issue is she’s moving to a new division within the school next year and there are many unknowns. We won’t even have her schedule until the day before school starts.

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Anonymous wrote:Does the school have a learning specialist on staff? Many rigorous, selective private schools do.

Yes, they have several.

In that case, it's the learning specialists who will be reading this report. You should let them read it. They do this for a living. They will understand the report, its jargon and implications better than you. They know the school's curriculum, teachers and demands. If you let them read the report, they will have a better idea of what your DD will need - both in terms of help she should receive, and in terms of what she'll need to step up and do - than you would on your own. Also, executive functioning work with students works best when done in context of their world. You could hire an ADHD coach to give your daughter tips on the side, but wouldn't you rather take an approach that is more coordinated with her real life schedule, her actual teachers, demands and assignments?

In my experience, counseling out only happens after all tools and avenues have been exhausted. You haven't started down that road yet so don't worry about coming to the end of it.

It's your right to share as much or little of the report as you wish. So you can redact as much as you want and give them the bare minimum, but as a pp mentioned, if they are jerks about what it says you don't want her there anyway.

I shared the whole report with my DS school (public) because I wanted as much support as we could get. Unfortunately they disagreed with a number of things and refused to provide speech or OT that was recommended as they didn't see any issue in the classroom, but you never know until you get to that point how it's going to go.

Anonymous wrote:Does the school have a learning specialist on staff? Many rigorous, selective private schools do.

Yes, they have several.

Does the school have a learning specialist on staff? Many rigorous, selective private schools do.

Anonymous wrote:I'd share the report and work with school on putting the recommended supports in place. As PP said, if the school won't work with you, you don't want to be there. Most private schools will want to keep a bright student even with ADHD.

Right, this is what I think. He’s worried about the potential discrepancy between her intelligence and her inattention being a red flag and then not wanting to work with her. That goes against most of what I’ve seen of their philosophy- it’s a rigorous school but they welcome any extra help for kids and cherish individual learning - they just don’t necessarily suggest or proactively give the help without parent involvement.

I'd share the report and work with school on putting the recommended supports in place. As PP said, if the school won't work with you, you don't want to be there. Most private schools will want to keep a bright student even with ADHD.

If the school isn't interested in working with her after they see the report, it is likely not a good school fit, ultimately. But if it of course your decision what you share with them.

Anonymous wrote:Is the school asking for the report?

They’d like to see it. They didn’t request or require that we do it, one teacher (not her main teachers) suggested we consider it, but we have control over what hey see.

Is the school asking for the report?

Our 3rd grade dd (8.5) recently completed a neuropsych evaluation and my husband and I spoke with the psychologist yest today. She tested extremely high in intelligence but has a big gap between it and her attention/focus. We don’t have the report yet and know we will see a draft and can make recommendations based on it.

My husband is concerned that sharing the “real” report will cause her highly selective and rigorous private school to try and “get rid of her”. She isn’t struggling in school, she’s been compensating and is very smart. Her executive functioning needs help and we will be getting her outside help in addition to taking steps at home.

Any advice from those who’ve btdt?