OP back again.

I’m glad this thread hasn’t become the typical DCUM food fight. Good answers all around.

Thanks to all who have answered. All of we uptight people need to remember it’s fine to be freaky a little bit if your partner is on board.

NP - Very much appreciate the ladies who are chiming in on this topic. So for the women who are 'conservative' during the day but like the dirty talk with your DH or S/O, what more specifically do you enjoy?

I ask as my DW fits with the outwardly conservative persona, but sometimes she's a total beast and I'm wondering what I can do to ensure that I can help bring out this side of her more often (we're both in our mid 40s).

People who know DW and I would never guess that we have a very, very and intense sex life. Our only rule is no one else. We have a massive collection of toys, swings, machines etc. DW has a second closet that has about $10k in lingerie.
We go to Europe just to spend a week on a topless/nude beach. Our house that is under construction has a large 500sf storage/attic space behind the master bedroom above my office on the plans. It is actually going to be our sex room. We had the beam engineered to support a “hanging sculpture”, it will actually be supporting our swing and floating bed.

Anyone who looked at us would think that we are your average suburban, preppy, upper middle class couple.

Have fun embrace the passion as long as you don’t cross your partners baoundries. And if you encourge her vocalization in the moment you can feed off that and she will
probably surprise you with what she says more than not

Anonymous wrote:Don't feel guilty. I think the great thing about getting older and being divorced (I am 35) is the lack of guilt about these things. These dirty things bring us alive, they make the days more exciting and they make the time spent with people even more exciting.

Totally

There is seriously nothing hotter in this world than when a woman trusts you enough to show you how deeply sexual she is.

That vulnerability is everything.

Dirty talk away! If you both like it don't hold back and enjoy!

Anonymous wrote:I'm a 44 year old female attorney at a DC big law firm and all day every day I'm cool, buttoned up and incredibly professional. But with my DH I completely flip flop when we're alone in bed. That includes some dirty talk that turns me on as much as him. It may be a split personality thing but it helps keep me sane given the nature of my job.

I don’t think getting hot with dirty talk defines you as having a split personality. I am the same as you. I am around your same age, and dress conservatively. There is no way I will look sexy for work. However, in the bedroom, that is a different story. Dirty talk puts me over the edge.

I'm a 44 year old female attorney at a DC big law firm and all day every day I'm cool, buttoned up and incredibly professional. But with my DH I completely flip flop when we're alone in bed. That includes some dirty talk that turns me on as much as him. It may be a split personality thing but it helps keep me sane given the nature of my job.

I say, do what makes you and your partner happy, no matter how silly or weird or whatever it may seem later. If you both are happy and enjoy it, that's all that counts. I do not like talking dirty, but I do like other things and I realllllly like those other things. Other people might not, but it works for me and my spouse!

Just learning this at 40. No time to waste.

I love when my partner tells me what he wants to do ... so sexy!

Thanks to both who answered. I discussed with my current partner. She likes it also. We are both very proper and hard-working day-to-day so having a few moments of letting all that go is fun.

Your post made me excited, OP.

Don't feel guilty. I think the great thing about getting older and being divorced (I am 35) is the lack of guilt about these things. These dirty things bring us alive, they make the days more exciting and they make the time spent with people even more exciting.

As background. 40yo man. Divorced for two years. I have posted here off and on over the years.

I try to be a kind and respectful man. But in the moment I just lose it and being dirty is fun. (Nice to have a few times a week where I'm not thinking about work or the kids.)

In the moment things that would sound so goofy five minutes later I just feel compelled to say. Does anyone else feel this way? Or have partners like that?