I felt that way at your age. I guess a lot of people do. I had an audit lead tell me the same thing. He was 38. I told him that I heard of a US Army officer in the same spot. ( I know this from my grandfathers cousin. A general). Any how this mediocre officer was going to retire. Then WWII broke out. President Roosevelt ask Gen Ganey to help select the head of European Operations. He said a logistics officer with diplomatic skills. As we now know Eisenhower became president. My former team lead from the age of 38 to 56 became the head audit pic of a world wide organization. It did help that he checked the minority box though. Good luck

A fresh new year of your life lies ahead of you. Set attainable goals to reach. Such as joining a group related to something that interest you. Meet more people. Make connections and possibly friendships. You have a blank canvas in front of you, picture how you want to fill it and work towards that. You are only a failure if you stop trying, and you have plenty of years of trying ahead of you yet.

Happy Birthday!

I could have written this at 29. I so wish I’d realized and appreciated the freedom I had. If I could do it over, I’d have moved someplace I’ve always wanted to live. I would have enjoyed myself more. I know it’s lonely but try to look on the bright side.

Look at it this way. The alternative is to not be here to celebrate your birthday.

Find a consistent hobby. Consider a gym and become a regular, I’ve made some of my closest friends at the gym, mainly by going at a consistent time.

Anonymous wrote:I’m 29 today and realizing I’m a failure at life. I don’t have that many friends, and barely much of a social life. My family is all about themselves, and I have no love life. I’m 29 and have nothing to show for it - no friends, no house, no solid career, no boyfriend, no one to love me, etc. The only people to sing Happy Birthday to me are my parents. I feel so pathetic.

You sound like me, someone who hates birthdays. Even though I'm generally a positive, optimistic person, all I can think about on birthdays is what I'm lacking. It will pass, you will feel better soon.

You are but you are the only one who can do anything about it.

Change yourself, change your world

It's okay OP! So, so much can change in just one year that you may not even recognize your life in two to three years. If you have your health, decent finances, and good parents then trust me, you are LIGHT YEARS, ahead of so many people. Write down some things you would like to have happen in your life this year. I was a trainwreck at 28 and decided to change my life as I saw 30 approaching. Things aren't perfect now but they are much better. You've got this!

It sounds like you need some solid friends, op.

Make sure you aren’t posting the same message at 39

Happy Birthday, OP.

Look at the bright side -- you have freedom. Why not do something crazy like move abroad for a year or two?

Oh my lord you are only 29!!!

If you want to date, sign up for online sites.

If you want to buy a place, save for a down payment

I’m 29 today and realizing I’m a failure at life. I don’t have that many friends, and barely much of a social life. My family is all about themselves, and I have no love life. I’m 29 and have nothing to show for it - no friends, no house, no solid career, no boyfriend, no one to love me, etc. The only people to sing Happy Birthday to me are my parents. I feel so pathetic.