Anonymous wrote:Here’s a dad’s perspective: MYOB generally and, if volunteering, make sure that you’re doing it because you want to give back to the school community, not make new friends or raise your own kids’ profile.

And, if you take offense easily, get involved with the activities where you know people/bodies are definitely needed and where the organizers can’t get the job done if they drive people away or engage in exclusionary behavior.

What's wrong with making new friends? I think both can be achieved by giving time to school activities.
I mean, this is definitely a DAD perspective, I think. Because lots of moms enjoy meeting and getting to know the moms of their kids' friends or classmates. Makes the school feel a lot more like a community.

Sorry you're experiencing a few clique-y moms, OP.

Here’s a dad’s perspective: MYOB generally and, if volunteering, make sure that you’re doing it because you want to give back to the school community, not make new friends or raise your own kids’ profile.

And, if you take offense easily, get involved with the activities where you know people/bodies are definitely needed and where the organizers can’t get the job done if they drive people away or engage in exclusionary behavior.

Why so many posts about this subject?! There's at least one a week.

You can't control anyone's behavior but your own. Learn to ignore.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is there mean Mom behavior at your school?

I can’t believe how catty and mean some moms are. They are way worse than the kids.

I have boys and lead a drama free life.

That last line seems like a dig at parents of girls as being, what, more drama-prone than you as a parent of boys? What's the connection, OP? What does the kids' gender have to do with whether you think the parents are "mean"?

No mean parent behavior at our school that I ever saw, but then, parents at our school engaged each other only about school related stuff and didn't get in each others' lives or business otherwise. Maybe engage less, or just avoid those dreaded parents of girls. I guess moms who have both boys and girls are only halfway mean....

It's pretty well known that girls and moms tend to have more mean girl drama than boys and men. I have yet to see a movie called mean boys where the boys act the same way.

OP. Yes, there are gossipy mean moms (of boys and girls) at our school and some of them are raising mean girls and boys. We live in an affluent area though where there is a lot of social climbing. I just avoid them and it's easier when you have boys because at least you don't have to deal with the little girl drama too. Boys have their competitions but it is less about what someone said. 90% of the moms are very nice and aren't into drama either.

Mean moms? I don't know. We have party all the time moms (moms of older ES boys, btw), but they are still nice people.

Anonymous wrote:Is there mean Mom behavior at your school?

I can’t believe how catty and mean some moms are. They are way worse than the kids.

I have boys and lead a drama free life.

So...how do you even know and why do you care?

Anonymous wrote:Is there mean Mom behavior at your school?

I can’t believe how catty and mean some moms are. They are way worse than the kids.

I have boys and lead a drama free life.

That last line seems like a dig at parents of girls as being, what, more drama-prone than you as a parent of boys? What's the connection, OP? What does the kids' gender have to do with whether you think the parents are "mean"?

No mean parent behavior at our school that I ever saw, but then, parents at our school engaged each other only about school related stuff and didn't get in each others' lives or business otherwise. Maybe engage less, or just avoid those dreaded parents of girls. I guess moms who have both boys and girls are only halfway mean....

This thread belongs in the elementary kids forum. Similar threads there.

How would I know? Kids hop on bus in morning, hop off in afternoon.

I’m in to chaperone, attend a school party, but I have too much shit going on in my life for a bunch of yentas.

It is how much you engage them or even care.

By middle school it’s a non-starter. Parents are nowhere around. They aren’t involved at school.

I'd just like to say that we don't *have* a clique problem at this school...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nice try, Regina.

Who is Regina? Are you referencing a tv show?

Mean girls, right?

I heart Rachael McAdams.

Anonymous wrote:Nice try, Regina.

Who is Regina? Are you referencing a tv show?

Nice try, Regina.

*meant to say I want to live a drama free life.

Is there mean Mom behavior at your school?

I can’t believe how catty and mean some moms are. They are way worse than the kids.

I have boys and lead a drama free life.