sparky
05/16/2018 09:40
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
Anonymous wrote:sparky wrote:Anonymous wrote:sparky wrote:Anonymous wrote:What does your sister think?
She doesn't really care about school to be honest. Smart and a good student, but not really caring about the future ahead in high school.
What does she think about boarding school?
Ambivalent. Again, she doesn't give a crap really about her academics. The type of student that happens to be "naturally smart." I'm a bit worried about that though.
So she doesn’t care about staying home vs boarding at school?
Pretty much, but I think she did hint she would prefer day vs boarding, but no strong preference.
Anonymous
05/16/2018 09:39
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
sparky wrote:Anonymous wrote:sparky wrote:Anonymous wrote:What does your sister think?
She doesn't really care about school to be honest. Smart and a good student, but not really caring about the future ahead in high school.
What does she think about boarding school?
Ambivalent. Again, she doesn't give a crap really about her academics. The type of student that happens to be "naturally smart." I'm a bit worried about that though.
So she doesn’t care about staying home vs boarding at school?
sparky
05/16/2018 09:38
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
Anonymous wrote:
I think it's heartwarming that you are so carefully considering your little sister's academic path.
However, you need to inform yourself a little more.
Re: chances of getting into an Ivy.
Please know that colleges have quotas for high-performing public and private schools, so the mere fact that a student is in an excellent school will not necessarily improve her chances of going to the Ivy League. She will have to compete against really excellent students. If she goes to an average public school, and her family background is such that she is an excellent student compared to the rest of her cohort, then she will stand out and have a much better chance of being selected. Do you see? There's a strategy here.
Re: competition and pleasant school experience.
I know students in MCPS magnets, and the atmosphere is not unpleasantly competitive. There will be significant academic pressure in ALL excellent schools, be they magnets, or the top-ranked publics, or the best privates. That's because they're populated by families who care deeply about academics, period.
Re: Ivy selection now vs years ago.
It's a lottery, OP. You are probably a recent grad, and it's wonderful you went to Princeton, but admission rates are so low for the non-million-dollar-donor, star athlete, or legacy (parent-child, not sibling), that you can be extraordinarily gifted and accomplished and still not be admitted. Harvard rejects more valedictorians than it accepts, due to lack of seats.
So... please remind yourself throughout this process that your sister can live a highly successful life, with all the trappings of wealth and intellect that you would wish for her, without an Ivy League degree.
I haven't graduated yet
sparky
05/16/2018 09:37
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
Anonymous wrote:You sound like a troll OP. You didn't go to Princeton...you can't write. I call "English as a second language".
Uhh... should I show you my acceptance letter.
sparky
05/16/2018 09:37
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
Anonymous wrote:sparky wrote:Anonymous wrote:What does your sister think?
She doesn't really care about school to be honest. Smart and a good student, but not really caring about the future ahead in high school.
What does she think about boarding school?
Ambivalent. Again, she doesn't give a crap really about her academics. The type of student that happens to be "naturally smart." I'm a bit worried about that though.
Anonymous
05/16/2018 09:36
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
You sound like a troll OP. You didn't go to Princeton...you can't write. I call "English as a second language".
Anonymous
05/16/2018 09:36
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
Which boarding schools have lower schools?
Anonymous
05/16/2018 09:33
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
I think it's heartwarming that you are so carefully considering your little sister's academic path.
However, you need to inform yourself a little more.
Re: chances of getting into an Ivy.
Please know that colleges have quotas for high-performing public and private schools, so the mere fact that a student is in an excellent school will not necessarily improve her chances of going to the Ivy League. She will have to compete against really excellent students. If she goes to an average public school, and her family background is such that she is an excellent student compared to the rest of her cohort, then she will stand out and have a much better chance of being selected. Do you see? There's a strategy here.
Re: competition and pleasant school experience.
I know students in MCPS magnets, and the atmosphere is not unpleasantly competitive. There will be significant academic pressure in ALL excellent schools, be they magnets, or the top-ranked publics, or the best privates. That's because they're populated by families who care deeply about academics, period.
Re: Ivy selection now vs years ago.
It's a lottery, OP. You are probably a recent grad, and it's wonderful you went to Princeton, but admission rates are so low for the non-million-dollar-donor, star athlete, or legacy (parent-child, not sibling), that you can be extraordinarily gifted and accomplished and still not be admitted. Harvard rejects more valedictorians than it accepts, due to lack of seats.
So... please remind yourself throughout this process that your sister can live a highly successful life, with all the trappings of wealth and intellect that you would wish for her, without an Ivy League degree.
Anonymous
05/16/2018 09:28
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
sparky wrote:Anonymous wrote:What does your sister think?
She doesn't really care about school to be honest. Smart and a good student, but not really caring about the future ahead in high school.
What does she think about boarding school?
sparky
05/16/2018 09:28
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
My parents prefer public school at this point however, as they saw me get into Ivies from them. However, they also saw me get stressed out due to the environment there, and might send my sister to a private school when she reaches middle school soon. Since I'm going off to college, my parents are seriously talking about it.
sparky
05/16/2018 09:23
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
Anonymous wrote:What does your sister think?
She doesn't really care about school to be honest. Smart and a good student, but not really caring about the future ahead in high school.
Anonymous
05/16/2018 09:22
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
What does your sister think?
sparky
05/16/2018 09:21
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
Anonymous wrote:sparky wrote:I'm wondering how I can prepare my elementary school sister to Andover or Exeter. I was always stressed out due to the competition in a magnet high school, and I hope my sister has a better secondary school experience. I want help send her off to the Lower School and then the Upper school if possible. I talked to my parents and they seem to be positive about the idea, as the district they are moving to next year isn't the best. How should I help my sister go about this?
Why do you have so much influence on your sister's life? What makes you so certain that she wants to leave home? How old is she now and how old are you? That will depend on how we answer. For example, the answer would be different if she is in second grade versus eighth grade.
Although I don't know all the facts, personally I think you should back off. Not your kid. How would you like it if an older relative told your parents how to raise you? Don't you think sister has any say on where she wants to go to school?
My parents and I've been discussing this and giving input. It's just a passing idea, but since we might send her off to lower school, it's pretty real at this point. If we don't then it's four more years later I suppose. Honestly, I want to see her succeed as much as possible, and if Andover and Exeter is an option and she wants to go there, I'm willing to pay for her in all honesty. I can't if she doesn't. I understand how parental and relative pressures can wreck a child. I got EXTREMELY pressured into attending Princeton over Columbia and I always have some regrets about it.
Anonymous
05/16/2018 09:19
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
sparky wrote:I'm wondering how I can prepare my elementary school sister to Andover or Exeter. I was always stressed out due to the competition in a magnet high school, and I hope my sister has a better secondary school experience. I want help send her off to the Lower School and then the Upper school if possible. I talked to my parents and they seem to be positive about the idea, as the district they are moving to next year isn't the best. How should I help my sister go about this?
Why do you have so much influence on your sister's life? What makes you so certain that she wants to leave home? How old is she now and how old are you? That will depend on how we answer. For example, the answer would be different if she is in second grade versus eighth grade.
Although I don't know all the facts, personally I think you should back off. Not your kid. How would you like it if an older relative told your parents how to raise you? Don't you think sister has any say on where she wants to go to school?
sparky
05/16/2018 09:14
Subject: Sending my sister off to Andover or Exeter
I'm wondering how I can prepare my elementary school sister to Andover or Exeter. I was always stressed out due to the competition in a magnet high school, and I hope my sister has a better secondary school experience. I did get into Princeton, however, but I don't think fighting for the spot in a public school isn't worth it vs going to a private school where 20% of the population go to an Ivy. I want help send her off to the Lower School and then the Upper school if possible. I talked to my parents and they seem to be positive about the idea, as the district they are moving to next year isn't the best. How should I help my sister go about this?