Anonymous wrote:I have found that women who were alone/single towards 40 were looking for a "financial relationship". I suspect, in their cases, it was always that way, but they didn't find anyone to agree to it. Each of them had one child to satisfy that deal. They wanted a Mercedes, the guy wanted a kid, so it was a negotiation. Not saying I agree with it, but I have seen it. I would be ashamed to do that, but that's just me.

You need to find better quality friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an unattractive woman. I found dating very miserable. I had to resort to online dating because no guy in real life ever hit on me.

What makes you say you are unattractive? What is unattractive about you?

Short, long nose small eyes.

I do have nice hair and a body though.

Anonymous wrote:I’m an unattractive woman. I found dating very miserable. I had to resort to online dating because no guy in real life ever hit on me.

What makes you say you are unattractive? What is unattractive about you?

I have found that women who were alone/single towards 40 were looking for a "financial relationship". I suspect, in their cases, it was always that way, but they didn't find anyone to agree to it. Each of them had one child to satisfy that deal. They wanted a Mercedes, the guy wanted a kid, so it was a negotiation. Not saying I agree with it, but I have seen it. I would be ashamed to do that, but that's just me.

Anonymous wrote:I’m an unattractive woman. I found dating very miserable. I had to resort to online dating because no guy in real life ever hit on me.

I'm attractive and I do online dating and all of my attractive friends do too.

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Anonymous wrote:The older I get, the more I look back at photos of myself objectively. I see now that I was cute, pretty, attractive, whatever. Or, I see the women my ex-boyfriends from college and early twenties/thirties era married, and by most objective standards, we are very similar in the looks department.

Religious conservatism, not willing to relocate without a wedding when the finances/timing were not right, not willing to move in with someone, expecting a traditional courtship, focusing on graduate school, and career; helping with a terminally ill parent, these are all more likely reasons why logistically my relationships didn't work out.

I read so many romance novels, and I really thought at the time that if I was stunningly beautiful, my life would have worked out with the right man.

I hope most of you consider other areas of your life that need improvement besides your looks when it comes to relationships.

Don't be so hard on yourselves.

This is probably why. I found dating religious men (I'm a woman) extremely frustrating.

NP. What did you find frustrating about dating religious men? Too rigid? Wouldn’t have sex?

Ugly couples are everywhere,

Anonymous wrote:I’m an unattractive woman. I found dating very miserable. I had to resort to online dating because no guy in real life ever hit on me.

Sounds like you're also very negative.

I have dated online (met my husband that way) and every type of person is on there, including highly physically attractive. There are many reasons that online dating can be advantageous.

Anonymous wrote:I’m an unattractive woman. I found dating very miserable. I had to resort to online dating because no guy in real life ever hit on me.

Doesn't everyone resort to online dating nowadays?
Hell "in real life" people never look up from their phones to even notice other people - attractive or not.

I’m an unattractive woman. I found dating very miserable. I had to resort to online dating because no guy in real life ever hit on me.

OP, not sure what you are talking about. All the reasons you listed are not reasons people are not married. Sounds more like the timing has been off for you, which is a common problem.

Anonymous wrote:The older I get, the more I look back at photos of myself objectively. I see now that I was cute, pretty, attractive, whatever. Or, I see the women my ex-boyfriends from college and early twenties/thirties era married, and by most objective standards, we are very similar in the looks department.

Religious conservatism, not willing to relocate without a wedding when the finances/timing were not right, not willing to move in with someone, expecting a traditional courtship, focusing on graduate school, and career; helping with a terminally ill parent, these are all more likely reasons why logistically my relationships didn't work out.

I read so many romance novels, and I really thought at the time that if I was stunningly beautiful, my life would have worked out with the right man.

I hope most of you consider other areas of your life that need improvement besides your looks when it comes to relationships.

Don't be so hard on yourselves.

This is probably why. I found dating religious men (I'm a woman) extremely frustrating.

Looks are definitely not a reason. We all know plenty of unattractive married folks. If only "attractive" people got married/paired off, the human race would've died out already.

The single ladies I know are all quite attractive - I've never for a second thought they were single due to looks. They are single because of unrealistically high standards, or unwillingness to venture out of their comfort zone, or an overall disinterest in prioritizing marriage/dating, etc.

Maybe you read too many romance novels and had too high (or wrong) expectations...Burbank i agree... looks are NOTtgereason

The older I get, the more I look back at photos of myself objectively. I see now that I was cute, pretty, attractive, whatever. Or, I see the women my ex-boyfriends from college and early twenties/thirties era married, and by most objective standards, we are very similar in the looks department.

Religious conservatism, not willing to relocate without a wedding when the finances/timing were not right, not willing to move in with someone, expecting a traditional courtship, focusing on graduate school, and career; helping with a terminally ill parent, these are all more likely reasons why logistically my relationships didn't work out.

I read so many romance novels, and I really thought at the time that if I was stunningly beautiful, my life would have worked out with the right man.

I hope most of you consider other areas of your life that need improvement besides your looks when it comes to relationships.

Don't be so hard on yourselves.