I'm sorry OP. It's really hard to change anyone's mindset for them. Do you lead by example?

This is my BIL. We just got back from vacation with him, and he was telling us how healthy he eats. This is what he had for breakfast (I shit you not - just breakfast!):
A full sized omelette made with egg whites and spinach. Followed by a large plate filled with half rice and half bacon and sausage (about 3 pieces of each). Followed by a full sized turkey sandwich on rye. Topped off with a bowl of pineapple.

I don't care how healthy he thinks each individual food is - eating that much at one sitting can't be healthy for anyone.

BTW, he's about 5'3'. No clue how much he weighs but he looked bigger than we'd ever seen him.

Ask him to keep a food journal. Don't hound him with what he's eating, but ask him to at least track everything. A lot of people don't realize how much they are consuming until they write it all down.

Then have a heart to heart with him that you want to grow old with him and are afraid that won't happen. Are you prepared to throw some ultimatums his way?

Anonymous wrote:That’s awesome... eat food all day!! In massive amounts? May be ask him to visit a buffet 5 times a
Day.?

Lol! He needs portion control, plain and simple.

I did a program through my gym where we were supposed to eat 6 small meals a day, but we were given specific amounts of macronutrients to eat at those meals based on our weight and percent body fat—it’s been a while, but I think it was limit to X grams of carbs and try to eat X grams of proteins, then vegetables you could have as much as you wanted. And it worked really well, but it was a pain to eat that often while getting life done.

Either your husband didn’t listen to everything the nutritionist said or they aren’t a good nutritionist.

It's interesting to read this thread right after the one about the DH's working out way too much.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Error - he had TWO turkey burgers and the potatoes - not one.

UGH. I am just SO TIRED of the food issue. He has a food additction I'm pretty sure, but steadfastly refuses to seek help for it.

My DH does this too and hides his binges now that I've approached him about it a number of times, It is hard, I am so worried, and I feel like it is a countdown until I'm widowed.

That’s awesome... eat food all day!! In massive amounts? May be ask him to visit a buffet 5 times a
Day.?

What does he weigh?

If I ate 500 calories 6 times a day I’d be obese too.

OP here. Error - he had TWO turkey burgers and the potatoes - not one.

UGH. I am just SO TIRED of the food issue. He has a food additction I'm pretty sure, but steadfastly refuses to seek help for it.

Anonymous wrote:My husband heard from a nutitionist several years ago that he should have 5-6 small meals a day instead of 3 big ones. Despite being obese, despite seeing additional nutritionists that said this wasn't a good idea, despite hearing from teh doc that he needs to alter his diet, he persists. It is 1030 where I live, and he just had a turkey burger and fingerling potatoes left over from last night. He had a bowl of cereal with fruit and yogurt at 730. He'll eat a 3 egg sandwich at noon. and on and on. I mean - does this work for anyone? Just seems like an excuse to eat more, to me. I can't imagine that this is what this nutritionist had in mind when she recommended this approach to him.

I think 5-6 small meals per day instead of 3 big ones is fine. The issue is that what your husband is eating are not small meals. He is essentially eating 5-6 big meals per day.

Small meals would be:

1c Greek yogurt with 1c fresh strawberries (120 cal + 50 cal)
1 turkey burger, no bun, on 2c spinach with oil and vinegar (~250 cal + 150 cal)
3 scrambled eggs, 1 slice wheat bread (~300 cal + 75 cal)
1 grilled chicken breast, 2c roasted broccoli (~250 cal + 200 cal)
1 apple sliced with 2T peanut butter (30 cal + 200 cal)

When you are eating like this, you are shooting for each meal to have no more than 450-500 calories. I do this pretty regularly (the above are examples of the small meals that I eat) and it is possible for it to be very healthy. Your husband is just doing it wrong.

I think the issue is the definition of "small." The nutritionist probably should have specified a calorie range. A turkey burger and fingerling potatoes would probably exceed it.

My husband heard from a nutitionist several years ago that he should have 5-6 small meals a day instead of 3 big ones. Despite being obese, despite seeing additional nutritionists that said this wasn't a good idea, despite hearing from teh doc that he needs to alter his diet, he persists. It is 1030 where I live, and he just had a turkey burger and fingerling potatoes left over from last night. He had a bowl of cereal with fruit and yogurt at 730. He'll eat a 3 egg sandwich at noon. and on and on. I mean - does this work for anyone? Just seems like an excuse to eat more, to me. I can't imagine that this is what this nutritionist had in mind when she recommended this approach to him.