When people claim they are going to go after you for harassment, it is generally not an empty threat. She has in writing that she has asked you not to contact her, even to pay the money back.
Believe her.

Thread title is crazy... like, certifiably so.

I would put the money in an account for a while to have just in case but otherwise sounds like loan is forgiven to me.

Put the money aside and use it for your own emergency savings fund so you don't have to borrow from a "friend" again.

Keep setting the money aside and put it in a savings account. If you guys patch things up in the future, you'll have it and be able to return it to her.

OMG I couldn't even get past all the ?????? and !!!!!!!

oy vay.....

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Anonymous wrote:Wtf did you guys be get into a fight about that ended this badly?


If she wrote multiple times that she does not want you to contact her and to not send her anymore money, then I would go with that. You have it in writing so I would save that just Incase but she seems adamant that she’s done with you and doesn’t want the money back. I’d stop all further communication with her and respect her wishes.

I got into a bitter argument with her Mother who I haven’t really liked for years.
My friend said she had to side with her Mom (understandably) since she is family and I agreed.
In the heat of the second....
I told her I hated pretending to like her Mom.
I know ••• Not very nice, I was just really angry.

-OP

This, coupled with your writing styles, leads me to believe you are a very dramatic and possibly manipulative person. She is probably happier and better off not having you in her life and just being out $2k.

Ask yourself- do you want to pay her back because you truly believe it is the right thing to do, or because you want to keep yourself in her life and have ulterior motives?

The best thing you can do is use that money towards therapy.

If this is real, go to therapy.

Heat of the moment not second.

If this is a troll initiation exercise you failed miserably.

Are you the Disneyland fake injury friend poster?

this qualifies for a cool story bro comment

Tell her you will make a donation to her favorite charity in her name.

It is Mental Health Awareness Month.

Anonymous wrote:Wtf did you guys be get into a fight about that ended this badly?


If she wrote multiple times that she does not want you to contact her and to not send her anymore money, then I would go with that. You have it in writing so I would save that just Incase but she seems adamant that she’s done with you and doesn’t want the money back. I’d stop all further communication with her and respect her wishes.

I got into a bitter argument with her Mother who I haven’t really liked for years.
My friend said she had to side with her Mom (understandably) since she is family and I agreed.
In the heat of the second....
I told her I hated pretending to like her Mom.
I know ••• Not very nice, I was just really angry.

-OP

My years of Judge Judy say the loan is forgiven. Time to move on.

Wtf did you guys be get into a fight about that ended this badly?


If she wrote multiple times that she does not want you to contact her and to not send her anymore money, then I would go with that. You have it in writing so I would save that just Incase but she seems adamant that she’s done with you and doesn’t want the money back. I’d stop all further communication with her and respect her wishes.

Whooaaaaaa there's a lot here.

You do what she says, and consider it the price you have to pay (!) for her to feel she took the high road.

Easy.

I got a $5G loan from a close friend about nine mos. ago for a down payment on a car because the transmission died on my old one.
With that amount as a down payment, I got a newer + better car which I will always always be grateful to “Nicole” for.

I have been friends with Nic about nine yrs. & we have always gotten along like sisters.
When she gave me my loan, I told her I wanted to do a promissory note, but she wouldn’t hear of it.
Btw, relevant or not Nicole is very well-off while I am in a significantly (much!) lower income bracket from her.
Definitely not cut from the same cloth.
She was cut from cashmere.....
Me??
Likely polyester.

Well Nicole + I recently got into a fight and things got pretty ugly on both sides.
It is highly unlikely our friendship will ever resume again.
I have already paid Nic $2,900 of the monies back -> I still owe her $2,100 which I can pay, but in installments like I have been doing.
She wrote me on Messenger that she is done with me (told you it was ugly!) and that she wanted to cease any + all contact with and regarding me.
She told me to keep the money.
That in the big scheme of things she would rather I keep it & stay away vs. sending her personal checks.
She told me that $2G isn’t even a hole in her bank account so it won’t be missed.

I told her that I could never ever not return her money back.
That she saved my butt and I will be indebted to her for the opportunity she allowed me.
I told her whether she liked it or not, I would send the remaining loan in checks to her address.
She told me to keep the $$ and that she forgives the loan completely.
And if I mail her checks after her telling me not to do so, then that is a form of harassment and she would report me.

*ALL OF THIS CONVERSATION IN WRITING.

My Mom says to just do what she says, that even if she changes her mind later on, since I have a written account from her that the loan is forgiven then she cannot sue me later on.

I feel conflicted > What would YOU do??
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Re: Our friendship {Pure Insanity} -= INSANITY: Doing the same thing over and over, yet expecting different results each time.
- Mr. Albert Einstein