Hi OP, there are a lot of acupuncture threads on this forum giving recs of acupuncturists that focus on infertility so you might want to search for that to get recs. I go to Adam Miramom at Uptown Acupuncture in Tenleytown and he's fantastic and does not have a wait list. He always starts each session asking where I am in my cycle, what meds I'm taking (both Rx and over the counter), if I'm sleeping well, if I'm feeling nauseous, have headaches, etc. I've always asked what Adam is doing and he explains what it does--not b/c I'm questioning him but b/c I'm genuinely curious.
Depending on where I am in the cycle depends on whether he puts needles on my belly or not. Based on what you mentioned, that acupuncturist doesn't sound like she knows what she's doing and I would go somewhere else.
And to the person saying acupuncture is hokum, that has not been my experience. I feel more relaxed, which is helpful when dealing with infertility. The less stress you feel, the better. And there are plenty of studies that show how doing acupuncture helps with infertility, which is completely different than testing for pain management.
http://acupuncturepregnancy.com.au/research-reviews/
You can also search pub med for acupuncture and IVF.
Also, after almost two years of IVF, I am now pregnant. Maybe I would've gotten pregnant without acupuncture but it certainly didn't hurt my chances and throughout the cycle I was calm and relaxed so I'd pay money for that.