OP here. Interesting that people assumed that the classmate is a girl; it's actually a boy.

I emailed the teachers and the kids' desks were moved to opposite sides in all classrooms.

Why would they have the two girls sit next to one another?

Move them and a lot of the major issues are fixed.

Ask the counselor and the teacher to do something in order to stop the girl drama.

Anonymous wrote:Why are the two of them assigned to sit next to each when the teacher and counselor both know there's been a problem in the past? That makes no sense.

Based on your examples of this girl, it makes you wonder what goes on in this kid's home life. I bet it's not good (not condoning her though; just a different perspective).

It may be in the hopes they will practice getting along and work it out.

Anonymous wrote:It's very hard for a kid to ignore bullying and she shouldn't have to. If it were my kid I'd be making a big stink on her behalf. There is no tolerance for bullying and I'm a teacher.

However, my kid’s teacher seems to tolerate the bullying from the donors.

Why are the two of them assigned to sit next to each when the teacher and counselor both know there's been a problem in the past? That makes no sense.

Based on your examples of this girl, it makes you wonder what goes on in this kid's home life. I bet it's not good (not condoning her though; just a different perspective).

Talk to the teacher again and the counselor. There is no reason for your daughter to be seated next to this girl. You can also check out some suggestions on this free download( http://bit.ly/2Fi8tfm ) about coping with bullying. This is a real problem in schools today and children need to be equipped to deal with it and keep from participating in it.

Can your daughter request for the teacher to move her from the girl?

It's very hard for a kid to ignore bullying and she shouldn't have to. If it were my kid I'd be making a big stink on her behalf. There is no tolerance for bullying and I'm a teacher.

I agree--contact the counselor and teacher and ask them to separate the girls during class. But also--your daughter needs to ignore this girl, even if she's sitting right next to her. She should be polite to the girl, but completely and totally ignore any mean comments. It will drive the girl bananas, and it will ensure that your daughter isn't contributing to the dynamic and that she isn't getting in trouble.

Call the counselor again and ask her to intervene with the seating arrangement in the classroom. It sounds like you're doing the right things in terms of communication with your daughter.

My 9 year old has been having problems getting along with a classmate. We've talked with her about her own responsibility in her actions (such as watching her tone of voice as she responds to the classmate). We'd told DD that there would be some people she may not care for, but would have to be civil with in life, and that she and her classmate don't have to be best friends, but they have to learn to co-exist peacefully. It got the point where the classmate started doing physical things to DD, such as giving her little shoves when the teacher wasn't watching, elbowing her, stepping on her shoes, and knocking her stuff off the table deliberately. At that point, DD didn't feel comfortable going to the teacher so I let the teacher know. They called a school counselor in and the classmate admitted to these actions and they role played how to get along better.

The classmate has stopped the physical actions, thankfully, but continues to make comments to my DD telling her she's rude and mean. Unfortunately, the teachers keep seating them next to each other and when I tell my DD to ignore the classmate's comments, DD feels she can't since they sit next to each other. These comments upset her and she doesn't know how to handle them. I don't either. What can I do to help her navigate this strained relationship?