Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

How do the new kids know about his past?

This. Six-year-old boys are not especially sophisticated creatures. If they are calling your son a bully, he did something that is at least in the general vicinity of bullying--he's "being too rough with his hands" in some way. And what school is letting kindergartners/first-graders hit and kick another kid without anything happening.

You need a meeting with the staff to figure out what's going on. What is your son doing, what are these boys doing, and what is the actual dynamic.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

This story doesn't make any sense if this kid is just 6 years old unless you are conflating typical 6 year old behavior.

I would talk to the school about it. If your kids is telling the truth, you need to have the school involved. I suspect that you’re here instead of emailing them, though, because there’s more to this story that explains why the other kids are calling yours a bully.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

How do the new kids know about his past?

So there have been no communications from the new school? Talk to them. Be open minded and ask them what is going on without being defensive.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

God... what do you do..

Anonymous wrote:How old is your son?

6

Anonymous wrote:If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

THIS WAS AT ANOTHER SCHOOL IN A DIFFERENT AREA.
The problem is we have told him not to fight. But, now kids are calling him a bully and beating him up. _OP

I want to tell him to fight back. But, if he does fight back then they can say see he is a bully.

How old is your son?

In your original post you stated “he was admonished for being too rough with his hands”. Then you make it seem he is an innocent bystander. Which one is it, OP?

If a rough and tumble kid who gets in trouble and oh well gets rough with his hands is not the classic definition of a bully then what is?

Anonymous wrote:Calling someone a bully who is acting like a bully is not bullying.

And why are kids calling him a bully? It's hard to give advice without knowing how much he's contributing to this situation., and you seem a bit in denial. He's a "rough and tumble kid" who gets in trouble for being "too rough"? How rough?

At this school he has been getting beat up period and they call him a bully. He does not fight and as much as we now implore him to he will not defend himself.

Calling someone a bully who is acting like a bully is not bullying.

And why are kids calling him a bully? It's hard to give advice without knowing how much he's contributing to this situation., and you seem a bit in denial. He's a "rough and tumble kid" who gets in trouble for being "too rough"? How rough?

Change schools. Seriously.

My son is a rough and tumble strong kid. He has been admonished for being to rough with his hands. This year at our new school boys have taken to calling him "bully" . They have also taken to hitting, kicking, punching , and pinching him. He is not defending himself because he has been told not to fight.
I explained to him that calling somebody a Bully is calling them a name which is a form of bullying. Especially if the person is not bullying. I've also told him to defend himself.
Any better suggestions?