My SIL is not obsessed with Disney but she only seems to be interested in animated or other “kid” movies. And I’ve never heard her talk about books that aren’t from the YA category. She’s 38 and has never dated. she’s a bright person but she comes off as developmentally stunted and socially awkward.

My husband goes on and on about sports. Stats from years before he was even born, etc.

I have a coworker like this. She's so sweet and very funny and intelligent, but also very juvenile.

Her social media profiles all have things like school: Hogwarts, "Harry in the streets, Draco in the sheets" headers, etc. She has multiple wand key chains. I mean, I don't see a reason for someone over the age of 21 to have one wand key chain let alone multiple. She's always very depressed about the dating scene in DC and going on about how the only way she can get friends to do things wit her is by paying their way. I don't want to overstep because she's just a work friend, but at the same time, I want to yell that most guys don't want to hook up with a woman who has a life-size Daniel Radcliffe cutout in their bedroom along with a whole bookcase full of those little Funko Pop! toys. (I've been to her apartment for game night)

I do like star wars but don’t nerd out about it. I’m curious though, what is there for an adult to love about Disney?

Anonymous wrote:What do you want to talk about OP?

I just stated some topics in the last reply. But also just general life conversation rather than conversation focused on fictional characters. For example, there are a couple popular tv shows I watch. But I wouldn't necessarily like to have a conversation with someone about them-they are watched for entertainment-they are not a real part of my life. But for these folks it seems like these things are a part of their life and that seems strange.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, what are you interested in?

Nothing that specific. Like general travel, world news, food, real estate etc...much more general topics. Most people I can converse with very easily but I can't take talking about topics that seem suited for a 12 year old rather than a 35 year old.

I wonder how the conversation starts. Do you notice their books or movies and ask, so that they take that as an opening to go in depth? What would happen if you mentioned eating at a new hot restaurant where you had some interesting wine. The person with whom you are talking turns out to be a huge oenophile and goes in depth on that particular wine, its grapes, terroir etc. Would you feel the same about their interests being strange?

I feel the same way when people start talking about politics in excruciating detail on and on and on. And sports, ugh.

But, yes, OP, you seem to have met a few Big Bangers, and I can see how that might be off putting if you don't share their interests. Keep looking.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, what are you interested in?

Nothing that specific. Like general travel, world news, food, real estate etc...much more general topics. Most people I can converse with very easily but I can't take talking about topics that seem suited for a 12 year old rather than a 35 year old.

I'm married to one of the Star Wars nerds. I like Harry Potter (and also SW), but not in such a way that I'd allow it to dominate conversations and display memorabilia in our home. Star Wars is a bit of a current thing, though. Like, I know that we will discuss SW at least twice a year: when the new movies come out in the winter, and when the BluRay comes out in the spring. During those times, I try to be patient with his interest. We have recently gotten back into Harry Potter with our 8yo who is old enough to read the books and discuss them.

If you're not able to talk to hardcore nerds about nerd issues, don't befriend nerds. It's pretty simple.

FWIW, I think that adults who go to Disney multiple times without children are weird. My in-laws do this because they live half an hour away from Disney World, and I think they're weird, but because they are willing to take my kids to Disney every time we visit while I stay at home and read a book or take a nap, I don't complain about it.

What do you want to talk about OP?

Anonymous wrote:Op, what are you interested in?

Nothing that specific. Like general travel, world news, food, real estate etc...much more general topics. Most people I can converse with very easily but I can't take talking about topics that seem suited for a 12 year old rather than a 35 year old.

Op, what are you interested in?

I like all that you mention,so I would be fine talking about them.

Have you ever watched the big bang theory?
It's about these research scientists who are really into co
splay, and everything else you mention. Nerds. Geeks. Whatever you like to call them.

If the person is unable to do smalltalk without reverting back to their principal interest, then there's a little bit of Asperger going on.

These adults' interests and passions are just as legitimate as yours, OP. Have a little respect.

Anonymous wrote:Do you find you have nothing in common with them? I am asking because I find that somehow the conversation always comes back to them talking about their very specific interest just assuming other people are just as interested in it.

I couldn't imagine going on and on about a particular interest to other people as if they care.

Like if I go to a new friends house and see pictures/toys in the box etc... of something like Star Wars or Harry Potter I am turned off. I feel similarly about adults who play video games. By adults I'm referring to people like 30 and up.

Is it just me?? I mean it's Juvenial and weird.

I love Disney so I can't relate. But I feel that way about other topics of interest. My husband is a movie buff and will go on and on about movies. It is a struggle for me to listen so I commiserate.

Do you find you have nothing in common with them? I am asking because I find that somehow the conversation always comes back to them talking about their very specific interest just assuming other people are just as interested in it.

I couldn't imagine going on and on about a particular interest to other people as if they care.

Like if I go to a new friends house and see pictures/toys in the box etc... of something like Star Wars or Harry Potter I am turned off. I feel similarly about adults who play video games. By adults I'm referring to people like 30 and up.

Is it just me?? I mean it's Juvenial and weird.