Anonymous
03/29/2018 01:18
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Commitment to fitness
Shows affection on a regular basis
Enjoys his job
Shows affection on a regular basis
Enjoys his job
Anonymous
03/29/2018 00:16
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Anonymous wrote:Someone who wants sex more than a few times a ywar
Someone who could handle dishes put back not their way
Someone who doesn't hate my family and think they are out to get them
Someone who has friends
Someone I'm not afraid of saying the wrong thing to and constantly feeling like I am on eggshells
Someone who doesn't yell at me in front of our kids or public
Sadly I'm still married to this person. But the second time around will be much different.
Things will change for the better. You always have options.
Anonymous
03/28/2018 23:59
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Someone who wants sex more than a few times a ywar
Someone who could handle dishes put back not their way
Someone who doesn't hate my family and think they are out to get them
Someone who has friends
Someone I'm not afraid of saying the wrong thing to and constantly feeling like I am on eggshells
Someone who doesn't yell at me in front of our kids or public
Sadly I'm still married to this person. But the second time around will be much different.
Someone who could handle dishes put back not their way
Someone who doesn't hate my family and think they are out to get them
Someone who has friends
Someone I'm not afraid of saying the wrong thing to and constantly feeling like I am on eggshells
Someone who doesn't yell at me in front of our kids or public
Sadly I'm still married to this person. But the second time around will be much different.
Anonymous
03/28/2018 20:23
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Non workaholic - family a priority
Healthy boundaries with parents
Healthy boundaries with parents
Anonymous
03/28/2018 20:19
Subject: Re:Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Dedicated to self improvement
An understanding that happiness is not something you seek out in other people/things
Not abusive - doesn’t take out his bad moods on others
Fights fair
Also the pretty standard, has a good job, keeps himself in good physical condition, etc.
An understanding that happiness is not something you seek out in other people/things
Not abusive - doesn’t take out his bad moods on others
Fights fair
Also the pretty standard, has a good job, keeps himself in good physical condition, etc.
Anonymous
03/28/2018 19:13
Subject: Re:Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Ability to hold a job
Anonymous
03/28/2018 18:41
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Ability to take responsibility for his own happiness.
Ability to maintain friendships independent of me.
A serious commitment to foreplay!
A sense of humor.
Demonstrated willingness to take off a few days a year for vacation.
Ability to maintain friendships independent of me.
A serious commitment to foreplay!
A sense of humor.
Demonstrated willingness to take off a few days a year for vacation.
Anonymous
03/28/2018 16:34
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
No ADD or mental illness
Anonymous
03/28/2018 16:25
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
The main criteria were attraction and trustworthiness (my previous wife cheated).
Honestly, I’m a pretty simple person and it takes very little for me to be happy.
My wife turned out to be:
- Very positive with an innate ability to reframe any negative situation and make the best of it.
- Crazy hot with a lifelong view of fitness.
- Extremely driven and high earning. We’re both from lower class backgrounds and put ourselves through undergrad/grad school. Honestly, I believe that she can outwork any 3 normal people.
- Very modest about achievements.
- Great and consistent in the bedroom.
- Fun sense of humor.
Honestly, I’m a pretty simple person and it takes very little for me to be happy.
My wife turned out to be:
- Very positive with an innate ability to reframe any negative situation and make the best of it.
- Crazy hot with a lifelong view of fitness.
- Extremely driven and high earning. We’re both from lower class backgrounds and put ourselves through undergrad/grad school. Honestly, I believe that she can outwork any 3 normal people.
- Very modest about achievements.
- Great and consistent in the bedroom.
- Fun sense of humor.
Anonymous
03/28/2018 15:32
Subject: Re:Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Self confidence
Can handle stress of daily life
Interest in staying fit
Common interests
Children like her
Initiates and enjoys sex
Can handle stress of daily life
Interest in staying fit
Common interests
Children like her
Initiates and enjoys sex
Anonymous
03/28/2018 15:14
Subject: Re:Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
No severe mental illness
Anonymous
03/28/2018 15:03
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Someone who could handle his anger. That was the only thing I paid attention to because that was the huge problem in the first go-around.
Anonymous
03/28/2018 15:02
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Thigh gap - first wife put on a lot of weight with kids
Earner - I didn't want the single provider stress
10 years younger so our libidos? matched a little better
Earner - I didn't want the single provider stress
10 years younger so our libidos? matched a little better
Anonymous
03/28/2018 14:59
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
Never tolerate lies about anything, not even the smallest lie.
Watch behaviour, ignore words.
Does he actually put me and my interests before his own?
Watch behaviour, ignore words.
Does he actually put me and my interests before his own?
Anonymous
03/28/2018 12:36
Subject: Lessons Learned: What signs did you look for the second time around?
For those of you in happy, peaceful second marriages, what are the qualities that you looked for in a spouse and why?
For example:
Healthy attitude toward sex
Higher-earning spouse
Dedication to physical fitness
For example:
Higher-earning spouse
Dedication to physical fitness