It is nowhere near the realm of normal, OP, to still obsess over a 30 year old party where no one was assaulted or died.

The people you resent will never respond in the way you want them to - none of them are going to admit wrongdoing, none of them are going to say you were right, none of them are going to recognize you as the hero you are. This is Life. We have all had similar experiences. You need to pat yourself on the back and move on.

Please come to some sort of epiphany, either by yourself, or with the help of an expert.

It was 30 years ago!

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Anonymous wrote:I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her.

If you think your cousin won't do that, can you give her daughter your number and tell her she is always welcome to call you? You are a good cousin to be concerned about her.

+1

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her.

If you think your cousin won't do that, can you give her daughter your number and tell her she is always welcome to call you? You are a good cousin to be concerned about her.

This, notice you called your aunt not your mom. Let her daughter call YOU.

Anonymous wrote:I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her.

If you think your cousin won't do that, can you give her daughter your number and tell her she is always welcome to call you? You are a good cousin to be concerned about her.

Anonymous wrote:I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her.

It is not even remotely your place to demand this of your cousin.

Are you still mad at your aunt and projecting it on your cousin?

Anonymous wrote:I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her.

Your niece is going to college. She can most likely handle herself. There's also Uber now.

I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her.

I don’t understand what you’re looking for here, why it’s relevant that she has a daughter going to college, or why you’re still so hung up on it 30 years later. Is there more to the story you haven’t shared?

Stop focusing on the past, OP. Keep your eyes forward. People change, and MYOB.

What is wrong with you OP?

Move on. It’s not relevant.

Get over it. Omg

In high school, I visited my cousin and went to a party one of her friends threw at her house when her parents were out of town. We were both 15. She invited boys from my neighborhood. My cousin and I are both grown women now.

The girls, my cousin's friends, started getting high before the party. They were getting high and drunk. The party got of of hand. I locked myself, my cousin, and her cousin in one of the bedrooms. I called my aunt to pick us up. She lived 15 minutes away. She was asleep. I woke her up with my call. She wouldn't pick us up and she hung up on me.

The police were called to the house the next day because the girls were accusing the boys of stealing some stuff.

It was like a bad after school special. The boys from my neighborhood were angry with me for being there.

My cousin doesn't see anything wrong with the party even though it was years ago. My cousin has a daughter who is going away to college this year. I don't bring up this party hardly at all ever, maybe once or twice since it happened. The worst part is feeling like I am crazy for remembering what a horrible party it was. And yes, my cousin was lucky I was there to lock us in a bedroom until all the drunks could leave.