Anonymous wrote:No idea about your relationship, but for many men at some point, after years of rejection, they decide its just not worth the fight anymore.

This is definitely a thing that happens but doesn't seem to be the issue at all in OP's situation.

Anonymous wrote:No idea about your relationship, but for many men at some point, after years of rejection, they decide its just not worth the fight anymore.

She is the one initiating... So where do you get the idea that there have been "years of rejection"?

Have you tried doing more chores around the house? How often do you cuddle him, woo him and make him feel special like when you were dating. Ask about his day and really listen. Up your game and put lots of effort into the relationship to ensure you meet every last one of his needs WITHOUT expectation of sex. Be patient and maybe in 13 years when the kids are older he might want to have sex again.

So how is the sex when you have it?

Op here...he’s 39. I have never rejected (that I can remember). Of course I’ve spoken to him about it multiple times. He doesn’t seem to care. Says, “I’m sick of listening to you bitch about this” and leaves. When I wasn’t botching about it and being as supportive and kind as possible, he didn’t want to talk about it either.

Anonymous wrote:No idea about your relationship, but for many men at some point, after years of rejection, they decide its just not worth the fight anymore.

And here enters the poor me bitter dude parade....whose situations are entirely irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:No idea about your relationship, but for many men at some point, after years of rejection, they decide its just not worth the fight anymore.

Absolutely this. No way in hell will they initiate with their wives who've spent the better part of their lives saying no. So they get an AP and she always says yes. And can continue to make their wife happy by not having sex.

I also agree this happens.

Anonymous wrote:No idea about your relationship, but for many men at some point, after years of rejection, they decide its just not worth the fight anymore.

Absolutely this. No way in hell will they initiate with their wives who've spent the better part of their lives saying no. So they get an AP and she always says yes. And can continue to make their wife happy by not having sex.

No idea about your relationship, but for many men at some point, after years of rejection, they decide its just not worth the fight anymore.

Talk to him. Could be low libido, depression, porn addiction, affair, history of sexual abuse, medical issues (low testosterone), stress, marital dissatisfaction, low self-esteem, etc. So many possibilities. Just approach in as nonjudgmental fashion as you can do he doesn’t get defensive. Don’t let this fester. Dead bedrooms can wreak havoc on a marriage.

DW here (37) and I’m the one who initiates most of the time with DH (39). Not once has he ever rejected my advances. If he did, I would think something is up; porn, self pleasures etc.

How old is he? Have you told him how you feel?

Affair or porn addict. I guess porn addict and compulsive masturbator

Sometimes will comply when sex requested
Sometimes says no
Never seems interested

I’m at my wits end and sick of feeling rejected. Married 14 years, two kids. 38. Any ideas?